(Closed) Too many people at rehearsal dinner?

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Talk to the aunt who’s hosting and see what she thinks.  She’s the hostess, so really it’s up to her how big a party she’s willing to host…not you.  But it wouldn’t at all be out of line for you to bring up your concerns with her about the guest list issue (then you can know for sure what she’s thinking too).

We had a smaller wedding (also around 60) and most had to travel so it felt weird to leave anyone out, but there was no way we could basically host two receptions for everyone.  We decided to have a bbq at the park the day of the rehearsal and invited everyone.  It also gave us more time with people and everyone really enjoyed it. 

Just saying that as an example that a rehearsal dinner doesn’t need to be small, fancy, or expensive…but you have to work out with your aunt what will make both of you happy.


Post # 4
3285 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

we had a similar sized wedding and had 20 at the Rehearsal Dinner – i can see where you’re coming from but as i learned…pick your battles! =)

Post # 5
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have the same problem as you, so I would be interested in the solution! We are inviting about 100 people to our wedding, but they are all close family members and they all feel they should be invited to the rehearsal dinner. Plus, many of them are included in the ceremony so leaving out the ones who aren’t seems a little rude….

Post # 7
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we went back and forwarth on whether to have just our bridal party at a nice restaurant or all of the oot guests at my fi’s parent’s house. we opted for all of the oot guests, so we’ll be having a big rehearsal dinner too, but we’re keeping it cheap by having it at his parent’s home. maybe you can find a more inexpensive place to host it.

Post # 8
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Argh, we are in the same boat but on a different scale.  My mom wants to invite all of out town guests (mostly family) to the rehearsal.  This would mean about 100 people out of the 175 invited!

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