Post # 1
Hello. 🙂 I am planning on having one shower, and there would be around 85-90 ladies invited. Do you think that is to many people for one shower? Should I break it up and have 2? If I have one, should I set it up as an open house? I’m just worried that that will be too many people for one shower, but I would prefer one. Any input would be very helpful. 🙂
Post # 3
That’s a lot of women. I thought I was having a lot with 32 invites!
Post # 4
Also, what games could I do with a shower this large?
Post # 5
Do you have room for all these people? I’m having a shower this spring for 60 and thought that would be too many. I don’t know what you could do with so many people. Will you have the bride opening her gifts? Good luck and hope you have a big house:)
Post # 6
It’s actually at a lodge that can accomodate up to 130. We are inviting apporx 200 people, so these are all of the girls that are invited to the wedding.
Post # 7
Hmm…I don’t know. You should obviously do whatever you want. Traditionally, however, showers were only for close friends and family. I personally might question why there were so many people at a shower. However, maybe that’s common where you live?
Post # 8
That’s usually how many people go to showers in my family. I’ve never been to a bridal shower at a person’s house, and I’ve been to 12 of them. They’re always a brunch at a function hall, probably because so many people are invited. If you’re going the function hall route, then your number seems fine, but that’s a lot of people to fit in a house. And honestly, we never play games. It’s more of a chance to just catch up with family and friends. A few times there was a trivia/multiple choice type thing at every person’s plate setting and the winner at each table would get the centerpiece, which would be a nice vase or something.
Post # 9
I don’t know if you could give people as much personal attention with that sized shower. I’ve never been to a large one.
Post # 10
wow, thats alot! i really enjoy attending showers that are intimate (12-20 guests). any more than that i feel like i dont get to spend any time with the bride or her family and opening gifts takes FOREVER.
also, feeing and accomodating that many people is going to cost a pretty penny.
Post # 11
Ive been to some super huge ones hosted by our church–and those are always fun!
Post # 12
I think you’re going to get mixed comments about this because it is a really regional/cultural difference thing. I know we were invited to a shower last year (I couldn’t go but my mom and sister did) that was at a hall, with a big meal, and all the women were invited. It was also held by the mother of the bride. In my family’s background, a shower is a small event for just closer invitees with cake and sandwiches. And it is a serious faux pas for the mother of the bride to host!
It just depends on the type of event is the norm in your family/background. If you’re having it at a lodge and it’s more like the first type of event I mentioned, I think that number is fine.
Post # 13
You could give the attendees more personal time if you had more than one, which might be nice since you wont really get to spend personal time with them at your wedding. Just a thought. 🙂
Post # 14
If you do a shower that large, I probably wouldn’t do games or open the gifts there. You’ll need all the time you have to be able to talk to everyone most likely. I think that is an awful lot of people to coordinate a game with. Unless you do a not very interactive drawing type of game or something.
Post # 15
The thing I would be worried about is opening gifts. If everyone brings a gift you will be opening gifts for ages!
Post # 16
@Brianalaura: You are right. It’s funny how different these things are even in Ontario. I always heard that the mother of the bride hosting the shower was a big no-no but every single shower I have gone to since moving here has been hosted by the mother of the bride. Apparently in that area it’s normal for them to host it (which I guess kinda makes sense because it’s one less thing for the bridesmaids to pay for).