Post # 17
I spefically asked for one shower. The invite list is around 80. My dad and step-mom and FI’s family are all smaller. My mother’s side is huge. But I didn’t want to have one mom’s side one for everyone else. So one it was.
If you are worried about the length of time, have your guests play gift bingo. It keeps people’s attention focused.
Otherwise I like the one shower idea, gives people a chance to meet and greet before the wedding.
Post # 18
I went to a shower like this. It does take a while to open gifts. It lost a lot of steam before we were half way through.
I also haerd the tradition was to keep them rather small (those really close to the bride.) My vote would be to break them into two showers.
Post # 19
@Stormy: Yeah, it’s crazy how different it can be in one region! Maybe because it’s so multicultural in a lot of Southern Ontario? They also asked for “Cash Only” in the invitations (which horrified the mother of the groom, my mom’s friend, as you would never do that in our background), which is common for them! They had a 4 course plated meal and everything. I think it’s like a lot of things with weddings, you just need to know what your family/friends expect and are used to doing! E.g. Cash Bar, Dollar Dances, Stag & Does. . .and so on.
Post # 20
We are in the same boat–probably inviting close to 70 or so to my shower too. I believe it will be at my parents house, in the back yard. I was debating 2 showers too… I suggested it to my bridesmaids and told them to do whatever they felt was easiest/best for them. I never thought I would have such a large shower but after inviting all my girlfriends, family and parents friends, the list just kept growing! I recently went to a formal shower that had about 100 people, place cards telling us what table number we were sitting at, 5 course meal.. bigger than anything I had been too but it worked well and was very fun!
Post # 21
@Boston Bee: Wow, that’s interesting that you’ve never been to a shower at someone’s house. I’m thinking of having my shower at our church, but I think it’s strange because I’ve only been to bridal showers held at someone’s home. Interesting how different parts of the country do things differently.
Post # 22
Down here in the deep south, with that many people, we’d host a bridal tea instead of a bridal shower. They’re usually held on Sunday afternoons from 2-4 where ladies and girls can come and go as they please. The bride typically does not open gifts, this is done for her by the hostesses and carefully logged for thank you note sending. The gifts are displayed with the card or name of the giver of the gift.
No games or anything like that. Refreshments are usually punch, mints, finger sandwiches, or small fruit cups, and petits fours or a cake. Teas are a lot of fun and a great time for just mixing and mingling.
Our showers are usually much smaller scale, maybe in someone’s home or smallish room with games and things like that. Never more than about 30 people attending (and that’s a big shower).
Post # 23
Way too big. I would split it into smaller groups like your family, groom’s family, work people, friends. As someone who has thrown a lot of parties you are asking for A LOT when you hand over a guest list that big. The people throwing the party have to shell out some hard cash and it takes on the like of a mini-wedding. It starts to look like a gift grab too. Showers are supposed to be for family and close friends.
I have been to a couple of showers that were in halls and was basically a small wedding. My opinion is its over the top and the bride gets to talk to no one besides a few words. No good.