Post # 1
Do you think I can ask one of my fiance’s sisters to be a bridesmaid but not the others, or would it be better not to ask any? He has 3 sisters and I already have 2 other bridesmaids picked out. my fiancé only wants a best man and no groomsmen, so we’ll already have uneven numbers.
A a bit of background – I knew the sister I want to ask prior to meeting my fiancé, and she actually introduced us, so I’d like for her to be involved. I just don’t want to cause any family drama (I don’t think there would be any, but you never know). Thanks.
Post # 2
I would ask your Fiance what he thinks, since he knows his family dynamics best. But in general, no, I think if you ask one sister, you should ask them all. Also, a lot of times the person who gets upset about something like this is the Mother-In-Law or Father-In-Law, not even the sisters, so watch out for that.
Post # 3
if you met them all together through your Fiance I would say no, you need to ask all or none, but since you already knew one of them before I think it’s fine. If anyone makes a comment about it, you have a perfectly good and logical explanation for it.
Post # 4
Ask Fiance, as PP suggested. If he thinks the other sisters wouldn’t mind, then it’s ok to just ask the one. But I would still try to incorporate the other 2 in some way, perhaps each doing a reading during the ceremony or something.
Post # 5
I agree with asking your fiancé. I think it should be fine especially if you explain you wanted to keep the numbers close together and that she introduced you two as the reason…sounds fair to me. Good luck!
Post # 6
I’d probably keep bride’s friends (or sisters/whatever) as your bridesmaids, and if she’s important to you or the relationship, ask her to do a reading at the ceremony perhaps, so she’s still involved, but not in such a big way that people might feel left out or upset?
Post # 7
I am sorry, but I disagree with talking to your Fiance. This is your bridal party. You get to decide who you want in it. If you consider this one person a nearest and dearest then ask her. All of these individuals, I am assuming, are adults and if they are only asked to be a guest at the wedding (which is still an honor) then they need to accept that. But I do not agree nor like having to tip toe around or include people becuase their feelings may get hurt. They will still be included at the wedding by being invited so don’t feel like you have to include them in other ways to save their feelings.
Post # 8
I’m curious about this as well. My SO has six sisters…
Can any bees speak from personal experience? Anyone out there with 2+ SILs?
Post # 9
My fiance has three sisters and I asked them all and now have 9 bridesmaids, which is insane. I really genuinely like all of them though and have known them now for almost 8 years. I just think it is so important to start off right with his family since they’ll be in your life forever.
Post # 10
I think you can have whomever you please, whether thats one sister or all.
My SO only has one sister but if we get married I seriously doubt she will be in the wedding party. Which everyone will gasp at, whatever.
Post # 11
Thanks for your advice, bees! I have thought about it over the past couple of weeks and in light of some of the comments here well as some recent events, I think I will just stick to my original 2 bridesmaids (my best friend and sister) and try to involve my 3 future SILs in the wedding in other ways. We are only wanting to have a small wedding/wedding party so I think that’ll be the best thing for us, however if we were having a big wedding party (which seems to be really common these days!) I think it would’ve been nice to invite them all.