Post # 32
@IvyBride11: My mom was the same way! We invited all of her cousins, multiple of whom I don’t think I’ve ever met. But my parent’s are paying for most of the wedding and my mom was very close to her cousins growing up and wanted them included. Her thought is that a wedding is a family event and that they are family she wants there.
I spoke my peace about not understanding why people I’ve never met and wouldn’t recognize if they rung my doorbell are invited to my wedding and she blew up at me – there was no way she would budge on that one. Ultimately – not a battle worth fighting and they’re the ones paying. And hey – some of them are coming so I guess I’ll get to meet them now!
Post # 33
Ugh I soo know where you’re coming from. We can only have 100 people at our venue. Of course, we had to invite several family members out of I guess etiquette or whatever. However I was really hoping a lot (or at least a few) would RSVP no. I sent out 108, and so far only 3 no’s! Ahh! Hoping we’ll be able to get another 4 RSVP no…I was really hoping to be able to invite more of my friends but our venue was really important to us (as is a small budget lol) so it looks like it’ll be mostly family lol. Oh well whattaya do!
Post # 34
I agree with the other girls who were sad about the number of no’s I got. We only had 30% attendance.
Post # 35
Yeah, i think i would be sad if the people i wanted to come, couldn’t be there. But all the people I want are there plus more. I just really wanted a small wedding. The thing is that I already had a huge battle with my mom about the wedding so i let her have her way with inviting her people. Oh well.
Post # 36
@Mamasita, I agree with you if you live in the same state and can’t have one dinner in one year, why should I invite you? Most people say yes because they live in the state and think “hmm free dinner, free cake, see a bunch of ppl I haven’e seen in years, why not”
Ohh and I have never seen people who decline send gifts and I HAVE seen a bunch of ppl show up to a wedding empty handed and bolt after dinner!
Post # 37
Yeah, I know that situation. I really wanted a small wedding too, and we have about 140-something people on the invite list–I know to some that is small, but not for me! But my fiance and I can’t afford to pay for our own wedding, so we have to let some things slide. Good luck, I hope things work out somehow!
Post # 38
@Curlysue: Ditto and well said! What you just explained is exactly where I’m coming from. Everyone isn’t going to be able to suck it up and snap back at their parents about “my day this and my day that”. Maybe that’s just my experience, but because people are helping me out, I agreed to compromise – even though I may not want to do a few things.
@meeksy – just have fun, dear. you never know how the people you’ve invited will add to your joy. Let the stress roll off and think about the most important thing – marrying your love and your best friend.
Post # 39
Thanks all. I’m over it…just needed to vent that day! 🙂
Post # 40
Yeah harsh comments not needed. Family member add pressure to invite certain people because they don’t want to look bad. Espcially parents. They don’t want to seem like they have forgotten someone. Even though they aren’t the ones getting married. It will be ok I am sure.