Post # 197
What the hell kind of a family needs you to basically send “audition” photos? And I would be SO hurt if my husband/fiance said my photos weren’t “good enough to impress his family”. Sounds like a lot of future drama for you.. Maybe you really aren’t the right gal for that family. If his mom has been having all the say in your relationship, imagine what it will be like if you marry him? There is only one woman for a mama’s boy and that’s his mom!
Post # 198
I think you’re making 100% the right decision. I’d probably send him the ring back too…after I “accidentally” left it under the tire of my sedan.
Post # 199
After reading your update… OUCH! This guy is a first class asshole! And his sister isn’t much better! Seriously, there was absolutely no need for his sister to be as rude to you as she was, especially seeming as the two of you were friends. It might not feel like it right now, but these people are actually doing you a FAVOR by showing you their true colors NOW before you made the mistake of marrying him and getting stuck with them! This definitely sounds like a family that no woman in her right mind would want to become a part of! You especially don’t want to be related by marriage
because they’ll always make you feel like an outsider since you’re not blood. Trust me, the way they’re treating you now would NEVER
change even if you married him.
As for everything your fiance said to you, it made my blood boil just reading it and I had a retort to just about everything he said, but if I were actually in your position, I wouldn’t waste my breath or my time saying any of it because he and his family are so damn full of themselves that nothing you say will have any impact on them anyway. I was really glad to read that at least you weren’t buying any of his bull, though! Just because their family is Croatian is no excuse for being materialistic show-offs and for treating other people like garbage the way they do. I’d be willing to bet that most (if not all) Croatian families are in fact a lot kinder and more loving than this family. This family is just plain stuck up!
I’m really sorry you have to go through this. 🙁 This man is nasty and so is his family. I hope you find a better man to marry and a better family to marry into!
Post # 200
WTF? F*** him and his Croat tight knit superficial family. Someone who truely loves you would NEVER EVER make you feel HUMILIATED! When you are too embarressed to tell your mother about his behaivor, that should be your own red flag that what he is doing is horribly wrong.
Good for you for sticking up for yourself! Get some of that Scottish pride back and hit him where it hurts.
Post # 201
Good for you for being strong and standing up for yourself!
Post # 202
I would totally flip the script and request the same thing he requested from you and trash his photos after he sends them 2 u and say they aren’t good enough and not speak to him for a week… I have NEVER said this to any other Bee before but there is a first time for everything… get OUT of the relationship!
Post # 203
This is weird. I would be offended, and then just probably brush it off. Of course not sending photos that are perfect pronto doesn’t mean you aren’t serious about the wedding. Geeze. Your SO’s reaction is weird. Maybe he is on his period.
Post # 204
Yeah, it sounds like he cares more about status than anything else, and that he doesn’t see you as being worth anything aside from showing his status. I normally wouldn’t say something like this, but it’d be so much better for you to just get out of this, although it sounds like he’s making that easier and easier as the updates come through…
Post # 205
Sending you strength do go through what your gut is telling you is the right thing to do. Best of luck to you!!
Post # 206
WoW. Just read all six pages. WTH!!1???
The crazy! I just can’t believe it! I’ve read alot of horror stories on the Bee but this is the craziest!
I’m sitting here flabberghasted thinking….
he didn’t think the request was odd inthe first place???
he trashed the pics you did!!???
he ignored you for a week over this???
he used the mum card to say you were no good!!!
he asked you to deposit part of your hard earned bonus into his account.
he’s turned the whole thing around on you accusing you of meladrama!?
I hate telling bee’s to jump ship too, but when people show you who they are, you have to believe him. Based on everything i’ve read, i can imagine what life would be like married to him, and it isn’t pretty. I’m so sorry you’re going through all this…
Take care of yourself.
Post # 207
Hello everyone! Sorry for being MIA but I got really sick yesterday. Had to call in sick today also. Good news is, mum is coming over tomorrow. She’ll be staying for a week so yay!
To all you bees, I wish I could thank you individually! Really, a huge, huge thank you to all, I have read each and every post and they have helped me so much. Loved the link…LOL!
So many of you have shared personal experiences, and that really meant a lot to me. I can totally relate to your situations and I’m so glad you found true love and happiness after the trauma. It gives me hope too.
As for an update, he (won’t call him Fiance from now) knows I’m sick but still hasn’t bothered to call. I’m just waiting for mum to arrive and then we’ll go to his place and return all his stuff – I won’t tolerate anybody talking trash about my family. The engagement is definitely over. Thank you once again for reminding me that I’m not the crazy one here. The way this family was attacking me I had begun to think of myself as the devil incarnate. Really, you bees are the most supportive angels anyone could ever find.
Post # 208
He has revealed his true colors to you…he doesn’t sound like a person that respects you. He should be the first person calling you when you are sick, regardless of a fight. I’m really glad you have made the decision to end the engagment. You deserve much better…dont worry about the lost money or how your family was right – those things will always come back. What you wont get back in life is precious time wasted on men that don’t respect you to the fullest. You can never get those years back. So kudos to you! Sounds like you have a LOT going for you, keep it up!
Post # 209
Just read through the whole thread. I am personally so happy for you. And so glad that your mom is so so supportive of you. You are very very lucky to have her there for you! Find a good man, who treats you right, and loves you because you are a smart, beautiful, caring woman who knows how to take care of herself and others!
At least that’s what I’m getting from all your comments. Best of luck. And feel better! Get some rest when you’ve escaped! And keep everyone updated so we know you’re safe!
Post # 210
thanks for the update, and stay strong. And good on your mum for supporting you.
Post # 211
You are absolutely doing the right thing by ending it with this creep and his creepy family. I think I can speak for all the Bees when I say how proud we are of you for doing what’s best for you!