(Closed) Too much drama, should I have her as a BM

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Oooh, this is a tough one.  May I ask, how large of a wedding party are you having?  Because if you have a small wedding party, it wouldn’t be a big deal, but if it is large she might get more upset.  I have a friend who had this situation, her solution was to keep the wedding party small and all family!  Also, be aware that she will cause drama if she isn’t asked.  I don’t knwo what to do here, but you will have to follow your heart!  

Post # 4
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Newbee

If when bringing up her issues (that she clearly put out there) is like talking to a wall, it means she is in denial about them, and probably won’t change within a year’s time.  My suggestion: don’t invite her to be in the party if you have other girls you would like to include instead.  You will find out, especially close to the actual wedding day, that you will need supportive bridesmaids around you who won’t cause you un-needed stress.  She sounds like she is the exact opposite.  It is much easier to deal with someone who is off-put by not being invited into the party – where hurt feelings will subside most likely – than dealing with someone an entire year who is going to cause you grief.  Mark.my.word.  Speaking from experience. 

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