- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Hi all. I seriously need a voice of reason right now and may be too stressed to see the forest through the trees, so to speak.
Looooong story short, there are serious, deep-rooted family issues going on (not new in reaction to the engagement/wedding planning, but intensified since then for sure).
My Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister) doesn’t communicate with our mother but has made some efforts throughout this process…I understand and support her in her decision and struggle with the same emotions she does (but maybe react different…usually by being passive, which I’m learning, only comes back to bite me in the ass in the end).
My mom reached out to her to talk about the shower and was ignored (I then told her that the bridal party would like to wait until January to start the discussions). Well, now it’s January. My sister just reached out to my mom and my mom let her have it…I read the emails and they weren’t pretty. I appealed to my mom to let it go and allow for my sister to be the “point person” to organize the group/plan but that I would like for her (my mom) to be in the loop too…
Well, my mom has now sent out several emails…wanting to change the shower date. Send out invites right away (like next week) and change the place the girls had wanted to host the shower at.
I want to have a shower but at what cost? Is there a better way for this to be dealt with? I really appreciate any of your words of wisdom and shared experiences. If it weren’t for FI’s encouragement and the support/ideas I find on WB, I’m not sure there would even be a wedding…