(Closed) Too much family drama

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We had tons of family drama because of our wedding, hubby no longer speaks to his parents because of it (actually they stopped speaking to him but you get the idea). In the end, we made the decisions that were right for us as a couple and said screw it to what anyone else wanted or expected. It was difficult and I totally sympathize with what you are going through. Remember your day is about the two of you and that is all that matters! Good luck.

Post # 4
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@fallbridetobe2013:  I’m sorry but you have to realize you are somewhat culpable… a facebook event page?  Not a good idea, especially considering you didn’t simply do the math ahead of time to know whether or not you could accomodate all those people. 

I’m sorry, I don’t want to be mean but, you kind of have to understand where these people are coming from… You’re invited!  Oh wait, no you’re not anymore!  It’s just…. icky.

What’s done is done, you can’t go back in time and change what’s happened.  But it will blow over eventually.

Post # 5
Member
680 posts
Busy bee

Is there any way to downsize your costs besides cutting the guest list? Cash bar, cheaper food, fewer flowers, etc.? Could either set of parents be asked to contribute?

Post # 9
Member
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@fallbridetobe2013:  You’re right.  As much as I might be pissed/upset I certainly wouldn’t add insult to injury and create more issues.  So I can sympathize there.

The dust will settle eventually.  Sorry buddy!

Post # 10
Member
680 posts
Busy bee

Hmm…that’s tough. They shouldn’t be offended to simply be asked, but I guess to each his own. 

Is there any way that either of you could get an additional job on the weekends or something to make up the cost? Is there a friend or family member that could loan you both the money? I’d hate to see your wedding day be tarnished with a rift like this. 

In the event that you did come up with the money, how would they take to being re-invited? Do you think they would scoff at that? If so, maybe you should just leave things as they are. You don’t need more drama than you’ve already got.

Post # 11
Member
12248 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ugh, what a nightmare! Get married in the ceremony/reception you want/can afford.

Also, filter your posts so people not invited to the wedding can’t see your wedding posts!

They’ll all get over it eventually!

Post # 12
Member
384 posts
Helper bee

What about cutting plated dinner and just do appetizer foods. This would allow more people to come. 

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