Post # 1
- Wedding: December 2015 - Key Largo Lighthouse
I just wanted your opinions on some ideas I have for my wedding activities for guest.<br /><br />
It’s going to be a small, intimate wedding (less than 40 people) and we aren’t hiring a DJ — we’re just doing the playlist thing. Most of the guests are relatives of my fiance’s side so I don’t know if they’re dancers but those on my side aren’t going to be partying it up on the dance floor….
So, I wanted to come up with activities for the guest so they aren’t bored just sitting around. But, I just wanted to run my ideas by you guys to see if maybe there’s too many (in case my fiance’s side of the family ARE dancing fans).
My ideas are:
1) Our “guestbook” is a mini Notre Damce helmet guests will sign (this is an ode to my fiance’s obsession with Notre Damce and it’s a surprise for him)
2) We’re going to have a Wishing Jar where guests can write us a Wish or Advice and put it in our wishing jar
3) We aren’t going to have a photo booth so we were going to set up an area with a blank chalkboard for guests to write us a message and our photographers are prepared to take their picture with their message.
4) I wanted to have a few fun booklets forr guests to fill out fun answers (such as “Advice for the Bride” “Advice for the Groom” “What hobbies should we take up as a couple”) — probably about 4 or 5 booklets
5) I’m OBSESSED with the idea of having our guests decorate mini art canvases (on mini easels) with sharpie pens (instead of paint to avoid the mess) because I think it’s such a cute idea! We would use them as decor for our home.
So, those are my ideas…too much? Our cocktail hour will probably be from 5:45 – 7:00 and I figured that would be when guests would sign the guestbook, do the wishing jar and take their msg photos. Then our reception begins at 7with dinner starting at 7:30 and toasts at 7:45. I thought maybe we could place a mini canvas at each place setting so guests could decorate them during dinner….Then have the question booklets set out on high-top tables that will be located around the dance floor or at the lounge area we’ll have where the bonfire will be for s’mores…
Post # 2
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Honestly my first thought is that that sounds like a lot of work for guests. I think you’d be more likely to get a good response for one or two types of guest book, rather than like 5-6 types.
Post # 3
Sorry to be so blunt but, IMO, adult wedding guests don’t need to be doing arts & crafts at a wedding. A wedding is a time for adults to chat with others, enjoy great food and drinks and just “be in the moment” (a very popular WB idea).
Honestly, children don’t either. They need to learn how to make small talk to others around them or just enjoy the ambience. It’s a life skill that should be learned. A person does not need to be entertained all the time.
Again, sorry to rain on your parade but most people, at a joyful event as your wedding will be, can handle “down time” without being bored. And if they are, that’s okay… not every minute needs to be “entertaining”.
Post # 4
I am going to be very blunt and I’m not trying to be rude, but it will probably sound that way.
I’m sorry but after signing the helmet for you guys, none of the rest of that would interest me at all. One of my DD’s set up a make a wish take a wish thing for her guests. Wishes were from them, and then the guests could write a wish for them. Out of well over 100 guests she only got 3 wishes. If I wrote you a wish I am not going to do the chalkboard thing. Do you realize how much that will tie up your photographer? Again, after writing you a wish, I am not going to fill out an advice for bride/groom. If there was something I wanted to pass along to you I have already taken the time to do so. Believe me, there is NO ONE in the world you want decorating something for you than me. My stick figures can qualify for handicap parking stickers and I’m really not kidding.
I think this is way too busy and you should trust your guests to chat and visit during the cocktail hour. If you don’t have a lot of dancers your reception might be a bit shorter, but that is ok. The things you are proposing aren’t going to keep people there.
Post # 5
I think you are worrying too much about keeping your guests entertained. People love to get together, socialize, catch up, share stories, show pics to each other etc.
Post # 6
Your guests will do what they always do at weddings when not dancing- talk to their friends and family. They do not need activities to keep them entertained.
Post # 7
The first four are all pretty much the same thing: guest writing stuff for you to read. I’d pick one.
Post # 8
I’d say pick one or two. I’d run out of things to write after a while…that’s four writing things plus the mini canvases….and honestly a lot of people will probably do one or two and miss that there are even others. And two of those include advice-which I think is a much better idea for the bridal shower or something like that.
I’d say skip the canvases-a lot of people feel like they aren’t artisitic or whatever and would feel awkward. and maybe it’s just me, but every time I pick up a Sharpie the ink ends up on my hands. Just do the helmet OR wishing jar OR photo messages. I think the Photo Messages is the most fun for guests and will be the coolest as a keepsake.
Perhaps you could use the helmet or canvases at the rehearsal dinner for the wedding party/family to sign? Or at the bachelor party? We bought a Jenga set and sharpies and had them out at the rehearsal dinner for people to write/draw on and that was a hit. Then it didn’t matter if people totally ignored it (I’d say maybe 25% of the people there did it), took 10min to draw a detailed picture bc they weren’t missing wedding festivities or just got really into it and got sharpie on their hands. We got some really cute pictures drawn by the elementary aged kids too.
We did a guestbook quilt and it honestly confused a LOT of people that that was the guestbook. We got a few reaaally weird messages. It really wasn’t my idea, my stepmom was like my friend is going to make this for you!!! and we said that was fine!
Post # 9
Really that is just a lot of stuff for them to do for you to take home. Not really entertainment for them. If you’re worried about entertainment, which you seriously shouldn’t, you need stuff for them, not you.
Post # 10
That’s a lot for guests to be doing. Almost like homework.
I think 1-2 of these things would be fine. Let people enjoy their drinks, take a seat and catch up with old friends and family. They don’t need to be entertained and kept busy like kids.
Post # 11
I also may add that, while Pinterest has a lot of great ideas, it’s easy to OD on what you find there.
Post # 12
I’d pick one or two and leave it at that. Your guests are adults. They can entertain themselves. They don’t need activities to keep them busy.
Post # 13
- Wedding: December 2015 - Key Largo Lighthouse
@justwondering2015 — AMEN! lol…I think I just got caught up in “oooo, this sounds cool…this too…oh, I want that too!”
I think I’m just going to do the helmet, chalkboard photo message (which our photographer loves the idea and since we have 2 it shouldn’t tie them up too up) and Wishing Jar.
Thanks everyone!!!! I knew it was too much but I think I needed it confirmed.
Post # 14
If you are worried about entertaining your guest instead of a ton of crafts you can have interactive food, games, ice breakers, performance etc. Just mix it up. And just one where the guest write you well wishes.
EX. Helmet/ Drink Luge/ choc. fondue/ photbooth
Post # 15
We had advice notecards printed out and left at every place setting. We then had a groomsman go around and pick them all up and had the DJ read some of them off. Other than that, we had a guestbook and it was more than enough.