Post # 1
Hey all, I am kind of freaking out here, and I wanted to get your opinion as to whether this is actually a problem or not! So, I’m getting married next year and my colors are navy blue and rose gold. The guys are in a navy suit and the girls are in navy bridesmaid dresses. The suits and dresses go together but are not an exact match, which is kind of what I wanted, and the guys will have rose gold ties on. The issues are the mothers. They both are insisting on wearing navy as well! My mom looks amazing in navy and found a navy dress for a great price that she looks and feels fabulous in, so I was like go for it! Plus, while my brothers and dad will have on the navy suit in all of our pictures, I don’t have any sisters, so no one else in family pictures will be in navy. She tried on the dress with my dad in the suit and it looks fantastic together.
Now, because my mom is wearing navy, my Future Mother-In-Law is insisting on wearing that as well. She also is picking out these elaborate evening gowns that are like full on ball gowns and much bigger than my dress or any of the other dresses, but I digress. I don’t want to tell her what to wear, but I was really hoping she would pick a complimentary color instead of the navy. Whenever she shows me a dress, I always point out how its available in gunmetal, or light pink or burgundy or whatever color there is and her response is always “but it looks REALLY GOOD in navy”. Since my fiance’s sister is also in the wedding, for his side of the family we will have: the groom and the father in matching navy suits, the sister in a different color of navy dress and now apparently the mother in a different navy dress as well. I’m worried it will look weird in pictures, I’m worried that my mom will feel insecure or not stand out (she’s put a ton of work into this, and I want her to feel amazing on the day!), and I’m just kind of annoyed that I’ve mentioned multiple times, and my FH has mentioned multiple times that we would just like her to pick a complimentary color, and she just keeps ignoring us. Please just tell me it will be okay, and the pictures will be fine and on the day of, I won’t give a damn if she wears a burlap sack because I’ll be marrying the love of my life! Basically, just tell me what a bridezilla I’m being!
Post # 2
Really, it’ll be okay. The pictures will be absolutely fine. And your mom isn’t going to care about one more person wearing a very common and popular color – it’s her daughter’s wedding and she’ll be focused on that. Don’t worry about it at all moving forward.
Post # 3
Sunshine024 : I think it will be fine. Everyone will be in navy. If Mother-In-Law wore a different color it would be her that stands out. If your mom knew the groomsmen and the bridesmaids would be in navy I think she knows that she won’t be the only one in navy. Mom could get a nice shawl in a nice color as well to break it up if she likes too.
Post # 4
You are over thinking.
Leave it be. Your pictures will look much better when people are happy and comfortable and clearly this makes them happy and comfortable. Them wearing navy is a non-issue that doesn’t need to be turned into an issue.
(And also it just isn’t your place to tell a grown adult how to dress. They are not in your wedding party – they get to dress as they please.)
Post # 5
If you are okay with SO many other people wearing navy then yeah I think you’re being a bit of a bridezilla by drawing a line at your Mother-In-Law. It just seems unnecessary and a little spiteful. I think you have crossed a line by asking her “multiple times” to wear something else.
Post # 6
Could you not do bridesmaid dresses in rose gold? Otherwise, I’d leave your mil alone and let her wear what she wants. It is a lot of navy, but one more dress at this point won’t matter. There will be flowers to break up the look a little.
Post # 7
Sunshine024 : The pictures would look weirder and your mil would stand out more if she was the only one NOT in navy. This is not something to worry about. Let her wear navy.
Post # 8
Thanks all! I am at that stage where I am just freaking out about little things now! Navy is my favorite color and it looks beautiful in the church (it has pink/coral marble walls), so the more navy the better! Which was my original thought, but for some reason I started freaking out about pictures.
Post # 9
I think it’s too much navy. You’re pictures will be dominated with navy. But your MIL’s dress isnt what’s causing that. Your groom, bridesmaids, groomsmen, mom, brothers, father, and fiancés sister are all wearing navy. Your mIL’s dress being a different color will make the pictures weird because she will stand out. I’d put the bridesmaids in rose gold, with the groomsmen wearing that same shade in their ties.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
Sunshine024 : Traditionalyl the mother of the bride gets to pick her outfit first and thent he mother of the groom is supposed to pick a colour OTHER than what the mother of the bride wears. It makes it easier to determine who is whom in the wedding party.
HOWEVER, if everyone else in both families are going to be in navy, she will look like the odd one out if she wears another colour. I liek the idea of having hte bridesmaids in a rose gold colour and then maybe have your Mother-In-Law match that?
Post # 11
knotyet : We talked about doing the BM’s in rose gold, but those dresses are difficult to find (don’t want sequins) and it is in March so the BM’s will be really pale and its a difficult color to pull off! The flowers will have pops of rose gold and will be wrapped in a rose gold ribbon. If anyone has a lead on some non-sequins rose gold dresses, I’d definitely appreciate it!
Post # 12
Wouldn’t it look much weirder if your Mother-In-Law was the only one not wearing navy?
And I’m sorry, but it comes off pretty rude on your part to be excited for YOUR mom to wear your wedding colour but not want HIS mom to… wtf? It almost seems like you are intentionally trying to leave her out.
Post # 13
She would stand out a lot more if she’s the only person who is not the bride wearing something other than navy.
Post # 14
How about finding a rose gold shawl or wrap for the bridesmaids then, to break up all the navy? If you can’t find any in stores, something like a wrap or shawl would be super easy to make.