Too much sex?

posted 8 months ago in TTC
Post # 31
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I’m cracking up at these responses! also kind of makes me depressed because we used to have phases of super frequent sex like that, but now that I’m pregnant it’s just not the same 😩 

Post # 32
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

To the original question, after Darling Husband had his SA we were told every day was fine. I’m 34, he’s 33. So I guess you just cut back to once a day during your fertile window and go all out for the rest of the month. FX you conceive quickly as you did before though. 

Post # 34
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’m never letting my husband read this thread. Here I am struggling to fit in sex once a week…

Post # 36
2493 posts
Buzzing bee

mel2 :  I got my husband into the gym about 2 years ago. But what with wedding planning, then the long honeymoon, and the hectic travel schedule for months after our return, he never truly got INTO the gym until the last 3 months or so. Now he is SUPER into it. He’s seeing real progress and going 3-4 times a week. It never occured to me until I read your comment about testosterone, but this could be what’s behind his recent jump in sex drive!

For our entire relationship, we’ve been pretty much the same pace – every other day or so. 

But recently, I had a downturn and didn’t want sex for about 4 days and he actually got upset about it! Not in a blaming me kind of way, but in a sad face “we are losing our connection” kind of way. I was very surprised, as we’ve had the occassional (infrequent)  4-7 day stretch of no sex in the past with no problem.

Since then, I’ve made a concerted effort to have sex as much as possible, and I’m been amazed at his sex drive and energy! In the past, he seemed more than content with every other day. But now he seems to want sex every day, and we even went twice in a day last weekend and did a morning and night on a WEEKDAY last week, which NEVER happens. I think your testosterone comment has solved my mystery for me – thank you!

As for your question, in your shoes I think I would just continue on with our normal sex for the first few months TTC. Then, if nothing happened, I’d cut back to once a day or once every other day to see if that helped. The every other day recommendation is really only for guys with sub-optimal sperm. Most guys don’t fall into that category. 

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