(Closed) Too much stress! Can’t make up my mind

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Don’t worry about what other people think.  Choose things that you like but keep your guests comfort in mind when it comes to food/beverages/etc.

Post # 4
Member
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Think about all of the weddings you’ve been to in your entire life and think about the best and worst things about them.  Try and give less weight to things like decorations and favors in the weddings that you attended after you started thinking about planning your own wedding.  Especially think back to weddings that you attended five or more years ago.

The things that you don’t remember, your guests probably won’t care about as much as you will.  We will ALWAYS be our worst critics, no one is going to care about your favors or centerpieces the way that you will.  If you are happy with them, put them away and don’t think about them anymore.

Focus your attention on your relationship with your Fiance.  If the two of you are happy and in love, everyone will be happy and in love with love.

Also, put someone in charge of keeping your mother quiet.  Perhaps an aunt or grandmother?  Tell her that you are stressed out and would appreciate support instead of criticism.  It’s your wedding, not hers.  Take FI’s opinion into consideration more heavily than hers…does he like the decorations?  Is he happy with the food choices?  She’s stressing out just like you are and worrying that people will judge her, just like you’re worrying that people will judge you.  You are her masterpiece, or one of her masterpieces if you have siblings.  She’s proud of you and want you to be in your best light.  If she’s anxious, know that it’s because she loves you and is proud of you and is being a little bit crazy.  What mother isn’t a little crazy when her daughter gets married?

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