Post # 1
My wedding is coming up in 5 months and I am starting to freak out! I keep changing my mind on what I want and I just can’t seem to make a decision. I am so afraid that my wedding will be ugly and tacky or that people won’t enjoy themselves. I am the kind of person that takes any negative comment to heart. I have a very opiniative mother who keeps telling me she doesnt like my ideas. Also, I have 2 family members that are getting married the weeks before us. I am starting to stress about having people comparing the weddings and being burnt out by the time our wedding arrives.
I was really excited with all the wedding planning and had it all figured out but now I can’t even get myself to make a decision because I am too worried about what people will think.
Anyone going through the same thing? Please share your stories and advice.
Post # 3
Don’t worry about what other people think. Choose things that you like but keep your guests comfort in mind when it comes to food/beverages/etc.
Post # 4
Think about all of the weddings you’ve been to in your entire life and think about the best and worst things about them. Try and give less weight to things like decorations and favors in the weddings that you attended after you started thinking about planning your own wedding. Especially think back to weddings that you attended five or more years ago.
The things that you don’t remember, your guests probably won’t care about as much as you will. We will ALWAYS be our worst critics, no one is going to care about your favors or centerpieces the way that you will. If you are happy with them, put them away and don’t think about them anymore.
Focus your attention on your relationship with your Fiance. If the two of you are happy and in love, everyone will be happy and in love with love.
Also, put someone in charge of keeping your mother quiet. Perhaps an aunt or grandmother? Tell her that you are stressed out and would appreciate support instead of criticism. It’s your wedding, not hers. Take FI’s opinion into consideration more heavily than hers…does he like the decorations? Is he happy with the food choices? She’s stressing out just like you are and worrying that people will judge her, just like you’re worrying that people will judge you. You are her masterpiece, or one of her masterpieces if you have siblings. She’s proud of you and want you to be in your best light. If she’s anxious, know that it’s because she loves you and is proud of you and is being a little bit crazy. What mother isn’t a little crazy when her daughter gets married?
Post # 5
@HappierKate: You are too sweet. Your post just made me feel so much better. I really needed someone to tell me what you did. And you are right, I’ve been to a few weddings and to be honest I dont remember anything about them, not even the colors or the bride’s dress, let alone the decorations lol. As for my mother, she never had a real wedding. She got married at the courthouse in her sweat pants. lol. I think she is living her dream wedding through mine. Thanks for the kind words =)