(Closed) too much to ask for bachelorette party?

posted 11 years ago in Parties
Post # 47
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3941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

*Sorry, just to clarify, OP wrote this 3 YEARS AGO.  I bumped this since my question was about the same thing.

Post # 48
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2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@KateByDesign:  If the bride knows of all that, I feel like simply reminding her of those facts might do the trick. I’m from the lets make everything as easy as possible for the bridesmaids camp, so I can’t imagine asking for a vegas trip.Maybe you could throw a mini-party or take her our to dinner or pay for a massage or something in your cirty to make up for your absence?

Are you close with her? Is she the type to overreact?

EDIT: It seems like making your own thread may be the way to go… 😉

Post # 49
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547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow, I would say that that’s way excessive.  When did getting married turn into a shakedown where people seem to think they have the right to empty out their friends’s bank accounts, all in the name of celebrating the bridal couple?  I’m all for celebration, but there are showers then bachelor/bachelorette parties, then travel to the wedding, having to buy a bridesmaid dress, then paying for your own hair, makeup, mani/pedis, not to mention a wedding present.  No way. 

Sorry, I didn’t mean to be a debbie downer.  I totally get why people want to celebrate, but it shouldn’t turn into a huge stressful financial strain.  Honestly, I would politely decline.  If she gets hurt about it, then you should tell her that finances are really tight and you can’t justify the cost.

Post # 50
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995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If I were you I would suck it up and go–I’d have a great time and it’s really not so much $. Btw it’s not a destination wedding if you’re traveling to it…

 

Some could say she’s being selfish. But you also had a trip for your bachelorette and she went. 

 

If you do decide not to go, be prepared that it  may end your friendship. I’m not saying she would be right, but things like this can get ugly.

Post # 51
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684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

My friends only get married once (hopefully 🙂 I would do whatever and go wherever she asks. She is my friend and it is her special time. I know that as we get older there will be no more trips and limited contact once everybody starts having kids. I would just take this trip out of my vacation budget & have fun!

If I was strapped for cash I would probably dip into my savings and still go and enjoy this precious time with the girls, even if it would mean that I have to cut something out of my annual budget.

Post # 52
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3941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@sylvia.riggle:  For a trip that could cost $1,000+ for someone who doesn’t have a job, that IS a lot of money…

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