Post # 1
Fiance and I are having an alma mater wedding. Throughout college, there was a woman who worked for the university as a janitor that was always very kind to me. We would chat daily, she would hook me up with freebies. I know everything about her family, and she knows all about mine. As time passed, Fiance got to know her too and we got to know her husband (who rocks!). Basically, we developed a nice relationship with these people and every year we exchange Christmas cards.
Fiance and I moved out of state so we no longer see them. But our wedding is literally a few blocks away from their home. I would like to include them, but:
1. They don’t know ANYONE besides Fiance and I. Would inviting them to just the ceremony be more fitting? And if so, how the heck do I do that without being rude. What if they want to go to the reception?
2. They don’t have much, and I don’t want them to feel like they need to get us a gift.
3. Maybe they don’t want to come/be invited at all? I don’t want to hassle them
Oh boy, what is the right thing to do? Maybe we should just not invite them at all?
Post # 3
Invite them! I think they’ll love to come and they don’t have to purchase you a gift, they could always just give you a card or politely decline!
Post # 4
I would invite them. I’ve been to weddings before where my Fiance and I knew no one and we had a blast meeting new people.
Post # 5
I deff think you should invite them! And agree with beekiss2 they dont HAVE to give u a gift. And they could decline if they wanted to.
Inviting them shows you care and want to include them!
Post # 6
I would invite them and maybe include a little note that just says, we thought you would like to know we are finally getting married!! That way they know its kinda just a nice jesture and they should be obligated to attend.
The other thing would be to just send a note after the wedding with a wedding picture.
Post # 7
I think that you should definitely invite her, and in her invite include a note on how she affected your life, and THAT is your wedding gift. Obviously you know your relationship with her much better than I do! That way she feels like she is welcomed at the wedding, and there will not be the financial pressure for her to bring a gift.
Post # 8
Invite them! They are the ones to chose to come or not! 🙂
Post # 9
Invite them! They will be SO HAPPY! It’s hard to find people such as you and your FH who remembers caring people even once they don’t get to “use” them any more. It’s really extraordinarily nice!!!!
Post # 10
Invite them. You’ll be really happy you did. These kinds of relationships are precious.
One suggestion would be to ask a charming friend or relative to introduce them around a little. Having someone break the ice and say hi makes a big difference.
Post # 11
You definatly need to invite them. Even if they don’t know anyone. I’m sure they would still enjoy seeing you guys @ the ceremony and reception even if they can’t talk to you much!
Post # 13
Yes, invite them. They’ll be so touched.
Post # 14
Oh wow, thanks for the input girls. i will be sure to add them to the list. They’re really such great people–we have known them for years and I always look forward to her christmas lettter update. I know she looks forward to mine as well…
Now I’m excited to include them!!! YIPPIE!
Post # 15
i totally teared up reading your thread! invite them 🙂
Post # 16
Just wanted to echo – invite them! It’s so great that you thought of them and I’m sure they will be touched you did. Don’t worry about them not knowing anyone at the reception – they’ll be fine!! And, I’m sure they won’t see the invite as gift-seeking.