Post # 1
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Sugar bee
I have been with my SO for about 6 years now. We are planning on getting engaged in a few weeks so things have been set into motion. The main reason it has taken so long is that we have not been ready financially. Living in California is hard, it’s so expensive and a little depressing at times. But now we are getting things rolling finally.
The issue I am having is I think i will be too “old” to be able to have kids. I might just be crazy but is anyone else planning on kids later in their 20’s early 30’s? Or started TTC at that age?
I’m 26 and freaking out because I don’t think we will be able to TTC until I am at least 29. I keep picturing my ovaries all dried up by then 🙁 (I don’t actually think this will happen, just paranoid)
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
29 is definitely not too old to TTC! Women can have healthy pregnancies and babies well into their 40s. 🙂
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
Well, I believe technically fertility begins to decline after 27, but unless you have an underlying health issue, I really don’t think you have anything to worry about at 29.
At your next gyno exam, why don’t you bring this up with your dr to help alleviate some of your fears?
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
I hope it’s not too old. We probably won’t have kiddos until I’m 33-34.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
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My coworker is 38 and just had a beautiful baby boy and a perfectly healthy pregnancy. It took them 4 months of TTC. My aunt was 42 when she had her daughter who is now 9 years old. My sister had my nephew at 31, and another good friend just had a baby girl 17 days ago, and she’s 33.
Your overies will be fine at 29, and for plenty of time after that.
Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
Sigh I really hate this question. I am 38 and have my first child so no late 20’s is not to old.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
I’m not going to have kids until I’m at least 30. My mom had me at 32 and my brother at 36. The risk of complications does increase as you get older though.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
@MissNoodles: Great idea, i’ll do that 🙂
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
Seriously?!
29 isn’t “old”. I’m 29 and pregnant with my first. My ovaries certainly aren’t “all dried up”, it only took us a couple months to get pregnant.
I live in Kansas City, most of my peers here (young professionals) wait around 30 to start having kids.
Especially since you’re in Cali, I don’t know what the rush is. My sister used to live in Cali, she had her kids in her early 20s, and she always felt out-of-place because any time there was anything sort of parent get-together she was the youngest one there by at least 10 years!
Post # 11
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Busy bee
Most of my friends are just starting to have babies in their mid to late 30’s. And, this morning, a friend emailed me and said she’s thinking of having a baby in a few years, and she’s now 36. I do realize that at a certain age a woman is automatically considered high risk but I was just told by a friend who is in the medical field that the age has increased (maybe 37 or something like that…don’t quote me but it was higher than 35 or something I think). I had my son at 30 and he was born 6 weeks early due to gestational diabetes so I do understand concerns.
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
I may just be feeling this way because there has recently been a baby boom amongst my peers and family.
@abbyful: I did not mean to make it seem that 29 is “old” just “old” to start TTC. And I don’t actually think my ovaries will “dry up” at that age either; that’s the paranoia talking. Just trying to get a little reassurance here.
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
I made some edits to my post. Some people are taking offence and that is NOT my intent.
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
I’m turning 28 this year. Fiance and I plan on marrying sometime next year and probably TTC in 2014 at the earliest. My friend who got married in 2010, same age, isn’t going to start TTC until the end of this year (28 y/o) and my other friend who is getting married next year isn’t going to start TTC until 2014, either. We’ll all be around 28-30 when we first start TTC.
I do have 3 friends who had a baby this year. They are each 28, 29 and 30 y/o (or at least, turning that age this year).
And I do think there are a TON of women who are waiting until 30 before having kids. You have to figure your own life out before you can bring another one into the world. Times have really changed and it is taking a lot longer to establish yourself in this world than it used to.
As far as complications and inability to conceive go, there are also medical advances and tons of women have gotten assistance with it! Probably more than you know!
My friend, who is 32 and just announced that she’s pregnant, told me almost all the women she knows who had kids had gotten IVF or some sort of help and she didn’t know until she was TTC and was having difficulty and they were helping her out with what her options were.
Don’t worry! You are not alone!
Post # 15
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Helper bee
I hope ovaries don’t try up at 29! I’m 30 right now and just starting to TTC. I say relax and enjoy being engaged and married life. You still have lots of time to make babies. 🙂
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
As far I know, 35 is the age when women’s fertility begins to decline (that’s not to say it’s a dramatic decline, either). Unless you have other fertility issues to deal with, your age shouldn’t be a factor at 29. Best of luck to you!!