(Closed) Too old for the 20’s boards…too young for the 30’s.

posted 10 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 62
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850 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

*raises hand* I know whatcha mean. Some of my former high school students are in their early 20’s and are now getting married and pregnant… and I’m not even 30 yet (I’ll be 28 in 3 weeks). It freaks me out.

Post # 63
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I actually think that is a great suggestion.  I was just talking about this with a friend that just turned 35, how different our life stages are between 33 and 35 and how much we change.  I think they should split the board something like 25-33/34ish. 

Post # 64
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I think 18-25 (or 20-25 for that matter) is a similarly arbitrary distinction.  My husband and I own our own home, have been financially independent for years, worked for several years after college, and are now pursuing graduate degrees (I am in a PhD program, he is in an MD/PhD dual degree program).  We are paid to go to school, have no debt, and have substantial savings.  We are 24 and 25.  I’m trying diligently to not be offended by some of what has been said in this thread, but haphazardly lumping all women in my age range into the category who still live with and are dependent on their parents, make rash decisions, take big risks, and like to party incessantly is patently unfair.  I don’t go around making sweeping generalizations about women who are older than me, so I don’t understand why those same women feel the need to do so to me.

EvaBostonTerrier is right–where you are in your life has less to do with age than it does with what you are experiencing at the time.

Post # 65
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

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@mrsmdphd:  Thank you!  Seriously, I really appreciate how you articulated how I and well a lot of women our age feel.

I’m not trying to argue with the OP.  I understand where she’s coming from but perhaps something like 18-22 would be better.  Honestly, I’m slightly offended bothered that I’m categorized as immature and have trivial problems.  I’ve been living on my own for several years (in an apartment) and pay all of my expenses by working.  I think there are a lot of women my age that don’t act the way people think.  MissAsB is younger and she’s very mature.

Post # 66
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1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Miss Tattoo: Me! I am 28, and will be 29 when we get married. I ventured onto a 20-something board post one day, and it became pretty clear early on that 20-something meant early-20-something, lol! Maybe we can start a late-20-something/pre-thirties board!

Post # 67
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@EvaBostonTerrier: Oh, did not read this till after I posted. I like this idea! I will be voting for it for sure!

Post # 69
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Sugar bee

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@Miss Tattoo:  It’s not full on rage offended, just bothered.  I think I should have worded that better.

Post # 70
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2790 posts
Sugar bee

I think the OP and the other PP’s were just looking for someone else in their situation. It is slightly frustrating to be lumped into a specific age group due to certain postings by one age or another but I understand that many of us think and do stupid things at that age. I don’t take offense to this posting because as we all know those older than us reach different levels of perspective with age. Obviously Miss Tattoo is having similar feelings to plenty of other bee’s and this could be something Weddingbee considers. I like the suggestion of 20-25 25-30. If you don’t feel you fit in either category then post under another topic.

Post # 72
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Sugar bee

I don’t really follow the 20’s board anyway so I guess it isn’t a huge deal.

Post # 73
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Sugar bee

So why make it a big deal? This is an epidemic all over the boards. People choosing to get worked up over something that isn’t even really an issue to them. It causes more drama even though you weren’t even THAT offended in the beginning.

Post # 74
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Sugar bee

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@MsBrooklynA: Partially b/c it’s the mindset that everyone under 25 is immature.  I guess I shouldn’t have opened this thread, I am to blame for replying.  My appologies, OP.

Post # 75
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9050 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I was 26 when I got married (27) now, so yeah, I don’t really feel like there are any particular age related issues that came up for my wedding.  Not a big deal, I just don’t post there, and try to offer advice from my (somewhat recent) experience of that crazy age that was 20-23, since I suppose I came out relatively unscathed.

Post # 76
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Miss Tattoo:  Why don’t you suggest this idea in the ideas board?  I, too, feel sometimes the 20 somethings threads are directed towards the 20-23 age group.

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