(Closed) Too old to be a flower girl?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What kind of dress should my 10 year old Goddaughter wear in the wedding (as a flower girl/ jr bm)?
    Bridesmaid Like Dress : (67 votes)
    63 %
    Flower Girl Like Dress : (39 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 3
    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    @ria2886: I think it really depends on the gowns you choose for your BM’s and also the maturity level/size of your Goddaughter.  I chose to have both my Flower Girl (age 4) and JR (age 11) wear the same simple gown (different from the BM’s), just in reverse colors. 

    Post # 4
    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    10 is old enough that I think she’d feel like you were babying her in a fg dress. I’d put her in one more like a junior Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, that is more appropriate for her age. You don’t need to have a flower girl, we didn’t for the same reason as you, no young girls in the family or that we were close with.

    Post # 5
    2227 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I think 10 is still quite young: I’d dress her as a flower girl.

    Post # 6
    745 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    my niece was a jr bridesmaid at my wedding and she wore the same dresses as the other bridesmaids.  the dress wasn’t too sexy that I had to be concerned.  She had just turned 10.

    Post # 7
    65 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My cousin’s daughter is going to be a flower girl for my wedding. She will be 9. I’ve asked her to be a “Head Flower Girl”. While I think 10 is still a good age to be a flower girl, I thought the same thing you did, its borderline. So I am having two flower girls, one will be 3 and the other 9. By making her a Head Flower Girl it gives her some responsibility and doesn’t make her feel like a “baby”. She will also get a more “grown up” dress than the 3 year old.

    Since she is the youngest you have in your wedding, I see no problem with her being a flower girl, but a more grown up dress and maybe some “extra” responsibilities than a normal flower girl is the way to go.

    Hope that helps!

    Post # 8
    1434 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    Depends on her body type/maturity level. I had my 12 yr old cousin be 1 of my 3 Flower Girl but she looks 8…she wore the traditional flowergirl dress….

    Honestly: I think the Flower Girl dresses are the perfect way to go for the Flower Girl…A Bridesmaid or Best Man dress might look off?


    **with that said: my other 2 Flower Girl were 6 & 3….and all 3 Flower Girl had diff dresses on to suit their age…but all dresses were the traditional Flower Girl dresses not Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses

    Post # 9
    352 posts
    Helper bee

    Definitely a bridesmaid’s dress. IMO she is too old to be in a flower girl dress. My niece will be 9 and will be wearing a junior bridesmaid dress.

    Post # 10
    592 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @melisslp: I LOVE these – they look so cute in them. Who makes that dress?

    Post # 11
    42 posts
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Why not ask her what she would like? She is old enough to have an idea of her individual style and what she would feel comfortable wearing.


    I say this as My daughters, age 10 and 12 and my niece age 8 will be our flowergirls in October, and I had lovely layered frilly navy blue dresses ready to order them.


    My girls asked me before I ordered them if instead of these they could have something a little bit more grown up looking, as they felt the dresses were too young for them, so I chose dresses more similar to the bridesmaid dresses for them.

    Post # 12
    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    @flutterbi: Hi there!  Thanks for the compliment!  I actually found a lady on Etsy to make them for my girls.  I will have to see if I still have the vendor info. in my account.  The lady was super nice to work with and they were inexpensive too! 

    EDIT: I’m going to inbox you with the dressmaker’s e-mail. 

    Post # 13
    7404 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I agree with a PP that it depends on the girl’s maturity and development.  Some 10 year olds look and act 7, and some look and act 14.  You know your goddaughter so go from there.

    Post # 15
    16 posts
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Don’t feel weird about having an older flower girl. Our flower girl is 19! We are so close to our ring bearers (our nephews and my little brother) that it just felt silly to pick some random little girl. She’s wearing the bridesmaids dress in white with a colored sash…

    Post # 16
    365 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think it depends on the dresses? I had
    3 bridesmaids in purple dresses, aged 16-20
    2 older flowergirls in white dresses with a purple sash, both aged 10 
    2 younger flowergirls in all white dresses and 2 and 4.

    I think at that age it would look fine either way, so totaly up to you!

    Non-pro pic, and 1 is missing but you get the idea!

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