Post # 1
We are having a very small wedding next October and I am tryin to keep our bridesmaids/groomsmen down to a small number, as well as keep them all in the families as we are very family oriented people.
My matron of honor as well as my two other bridesmaids are all over the age of 21 and two of them have children. And the same goes for my fiancé, how Best man is married and two groomsmen are well over the age of 21. However, I am trying to include my cousin as we have always been very close. She will have just turned 17 by the time the wedding rolls around. I am wanting to make her my Junior Bridesmaid because of the fact my other bridesmaids are so much older and some being married with children.
So basically my question is, will she be too old at 17 to be considered a junior bridesmaid?
Thanks yall! Sorry it’s so lengthy!
Post # 2
I don’t see much of a difference between being a junior bridesmaid and actual bridesmaid, so I’d drop the junior from her title unless you envision her role/participation in wedding related events being substantially different than that of the bridesmaids. As they say, age is nothing but a number!
Post # 3
This! Unless you feel the need or have a purpose for giving her a “Junior” birdesmaids title, why not just allow her to be a bridesmaid? If she plays an important role in your life, then she should absolutely stand by your side 🙂
Post # 4
Typically junior bridesmaids are aged between 8-14 (too old to be a flower girl, too young to be a full-fledged bridesmaid). The only major difference between junior bridesmaids and other bridesmaids is the junior bridesmaids aren’t involved with planning pre-wedding events (i.e. showers and bachelorette parties) due to their lack of autonomy.
If your cousin is 17, she should probably be just a regular bridesmaid. Make the decision objectively based on what you think she can handle, rather than comparing her to others in the bridal party 🙂
Post # 5
I was a bridesmaid at 14. I don’t think you need bestow Junior on her. Does age difference really matter?
Post # 6
Just make her a bridesmaid? I’m not sure what the dilemma is…
Post # 7
“Junior” sounds a little young for a 17 year old. I suggest bridesmaid. If you are concerned that she is too young to participate in pre-wedding activities where alcohol is involved, I am sure she will understand. It would be nice to keep that in mind though, and plan a luncheon or spa day etc in which she can participate.
Post # 8
I picture Junior Bridesmaids as being younger than 16. I think 16 and up are regular bridesmaids. Think about it this way, even though she might be much younger than the other bridesmaids, when she tells her friends and family her title it’ll sound silly that a person of her age is considered a Junior Bridesmaid
Post # 9
I think of junior bridesmaids are being too old to be a flower girl (and wearing a different style dress, as they haven’t hit puberty yet). At 17, I think you can call her a full bridesmaid and she can likely wear the same style dress as the others. Presumably she won’t be at your bachelorette party or expected to contribute financially to any bridal shower, but otherwise I wouldn’t distinguish between her and the other BMs. You run the risk of making her feel like you see her as a little girl.
Post # 10
I teach high school juniors and seniors, so my students are 16-18 typically. They are more than capable of being regular bridesmaids. They would actually be offended/a little upset about being labeled a junior bridesmaid. I just wouldn’t expect her to be at some bachelorette functions or put money into any showers.
Post # 11
I had my 14 year old sister as a part of my bridal party, but I didn’t really see the need to add “junior” to her title. My other bridesmaids were 24, 26 and 30 (the last one married with children) – even though they’re all so much older than her, she still did the same things as them on the day. The other bridesmaids were even kind enough to plan a dinner as a part of my hen’s night so that my sister could join in with some of the festivities (she came along with my mum and went home after the dinner was over).
Post # 12
No, I don’t like it. “Junior bridemaid” in my mind is a tween or barely teen girl who’s a bit too old to be a flower girl. A 17 year old should be a bridesmaid.
She doesn’t need to be “paired” with a groomsman if you’re worried about the age difference.
Post # 13
Make her a regular bridesmaid! Drop the Jr. Title. If your worried about the bachlorette party, you can still have her do some festivities beforehand especially if the rest of your bridal party understands, and I’m sure she would understand not going out with you. I don’t see why she couldn’t go to a backyard bridal shower if she is mature enough to handle some sexy gifts if your crew is like that.
My youngest bridesmaid will also be 17 at the time of the wedding.
Post # 14
17 year olds will be adults in less than a year and probably look almost exactly like your regular bridesmaids.. I would find it super weird to label them as a “junior” bridesmaid. To me a junior bridesmaid would be like a 9-13 year old.