Post # 1
I really want to ask SO’s sisters to be bridesmaids but I’m afraid they’ll feel weird. I don’t know if they’ll feel like they’re too old to be bridesmaids or not… They’re 32, 34, and 36 now and the wedding will probably be a year from now… How would you approach it without making them feel awkward if they’re not comfortable with being bridesmaids?
SO wants 6 groomsmen and we’re getting married in his hometown so only one of my close friends has said that they could afford to go and be in the wedding. I want it to be symmetrical, or close to it. I certainly don’t want one bridesmaid to 6 groomsmen at least. I’d be okay with 3:6 or something but the best people for the role of bridesmaids would be his sisters. I would love to have the experience of spending time with them and getting ready for the wedding day with them. We live 14 hours from his family so I haven’t really gotten to know them well.
What do you bees think?
Post # 3
As long as you don’t pick super short/”young” dresses, I think that would be great! I’d just make sure they got to pick looks that had a little more sophistication to them, so they don’t feel like they are wearing tiny cocktail dresses. After all – isn’t a bridal party about honoring people who are special to you more than an age or “look”?
Post # 4
Oh I’m a firm believer in you’re never too old to be a bridesmaid! All that matters is that they are there for you two on your big day. I’m sure they’ll be delighted to be asked. I felt the same way about asking my girls, we’re all in our mid/late 30’s, and my sister is 41! ( sorry Katie!) But they were all so excited and could’nt have been happier..the more the merrier as far as I’m concerned!
Post # 5
Um…I am trying not be insulted here. I am in my 40’s, and 30’s is still very young! It might not seem it to you, but it is. Of course they ar enot tooo old to be bridesmaids!
My Maid/Matron of Honor is in her late 50s.
Post # 6
Sorry, I didn’t mean to be insulting. That question was asked to me by my mother, whether his sisters would feel comfortable about it or not because they’re much older than me. I figured the hive would be a good place to ask. I don’t want to make anyone feel awkward or uncomfortable but I do really want his sisters to stand up with us on our special day. I just don’t feel like I know them well enough at this point to ask them if they’re comfortable with it. I’m trying to avoid making things weird or awkward for everyone involved.
Post # 7
I am sure if you put it that way, that you want them to share in your day, they will be thrilled to be a part of it!
Post # 8
Never too old to be a bridesmaid!!
Post # 9
Definitely not too old! Who makes these rules, anyway!?!? my Matron of Honor is 47 and my Maid of Honor is 14! They’re also both my sisters! I’m somewhere near the middle at 33… I don’t think 30s is too old, at all. =D
Post # 10
I’m going to be a 33 year old bride so I don’t think asking people in their 30’s (or 40’s or 50’s!) to be bridesmaids is a issue at all!
Post # 11
Thanks bees! I feel alot better about it! I just never really gave it much thought until my mom asked me if they’d be uncomfortable with it since they are 10+ years older than me and the maid of honor.
This may be a super dumb question but what is the difference between maid of honor and matron of honor?
Post # 12
There is no age limit to being a bridesmaid. If that was the case, then brides older than that wouldn’t be allowed to have anyone except extremely young girls as their attendants, which is definitely not true at all.
A maid of honor is single/divorced while a matron of honor is married.
Post # 13
I’m 33 and my girls are 26-36 years old so I don’t think they are too old at all! =) Would your Fiance be able to find out if they want to do it?
Post # 14
My Maid/Matron of Honor was 46 and no one thought anything of it.