(Closed) Too old…too young?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
8882 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I don’t think so.  I was 10 years old and a junior bridesmaid in my uncle’s wedding many years ago. I had so much fun being in the wedding.

Oddly enough, my Darling Husband has two 10 year old cousins (11 later this year) and I felt they were too old to be flower girls. We had them as wedding helpers.

Post # 4
5659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Nah I dont’ think she’s too young for that. Sounds like a perfect solution! She doesn’t have to wear the same Bm dress as the other girls either, you can get something for her that coordinates that is more age appropriate.

Post # 5
1748 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t understand the Jr. Bridesmaids thing.

Post # 6
5950 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Jr. Bridesmaid is a dubious title created for girls that are too old to be flower girls and too young to be bridesmaids..they’re in limbo and in your wedding, it’s just what happens

Post # 7
1720 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

At 10 my aunt had me as a flower bridesmaid lol  She felt it was that kind of awkward age too so she had me get a cute little dress and carry a basket with flowers that matched the bridesmaid flowers.  I loved it so it may be a good idea for you.

Post # 8
390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We had a 9 year old usher in our wedding and it worked well for us.  I say do whatever you think will work.

Post # 9
191 posts
Blushing bee

The good thing about wedding’s is that you can do whatever you want! My SO’s daugther will be 8 by the time we get married next year and she will be my one and only bridesmaid.

Post # 10
5072 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

my niece is 8 and she’ll be a junior bridesmaid

Post # 12
4998 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Just have her as a bridesmaid. I think it’s too old to be a flower girl too. Invite her to your bridal shower but not the bachelorette party. No biggie!

Post # 13
790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think it’s fine. 10 is a bit old for a flower girl in my opinion. The only concern would be getting a dress that’s age-appropriate, and it sounds like that won’t be a problem.

The one time I was a jr. bridesmaid I did not have an age-appropriate dress. I was in my cousin’s wedding at 15 and was designated as a junior bridesmaid along with her two younger sisters, who were about 10 and 11 and still pre-pubescent. I on the other hand had quite a “womanly” figure! The regular bridesmaids were only a few years older than me and were wearing a dress that looked appropriate on an older teenager/young woman, while I was wearing this thing with a very high, prim neckline and sleeves that puffed at the top. I felt silly but it was okay; you do things like that for family. Smile

Post # 14
11744 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d have her be a Jr. Bridesmaid

Post # 15
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m having a 12-year-old junior bridesmaid. She and her mom were involved in planning the shower, but they didn’t come to the bachelorette party. I don’t really expect them to help with any wedding projects, either…her only job is to show up and look pretty! My BMs got different Bill Levkoff dresses in the same color, so she was able to pick one out that was age- and body-appropriate for her.

And I think it’s fine for you to have a few pictures with just your older BMs, but don’t totally exclude your junior Bridesmaid or Best Man. (Unless she wants to be excluded…mine is going through a stage where she’s SUPER camera-shy!)

Post # 16
1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think it’s fine to have some photos with just the BM’s and not include the junior.  The last wedding I was in had an 11 year old jr Bridesmaid or Best Man and in the photos she was grouped with the flowergirl.  We had photos of the whole wedding party, some just with groomsmen and bridesmaids, and some with both BM’s and the junior and flower girl.  It’s a good mix and I don’t think she ever felt left out, just knew that some photos were just of the grownups.

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