(Closed) Too similar to my FSIL’s gown?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I honostly don’t think alot of people will notice. Of course your Future Sister-In-Law will, but I am sure she will be flattered. It could be something you guys can bond over.

But none of that really matters, as long as you feel it is the perfect dress for you. I say go for it.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

mmmm… ok…. i dont want to sound harsh so let do this slow… i know it has been 2 years but people have pic of her wedding and someone will notice… i think you should look for the same silhouette but something that doesnt look soooo close to her dress.  but if you reallyyyyyy are in love with that dress… do it… its your wedding after all.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Hmm.. I could see how some women could get upset over this. Personally i wouldn’t care! I think it just depends on what your Future Sister-In-Law is like. In the end though that’s your dream dress, and she couldn’t possibly hold a grudge for very long!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think it depends on your Future Sister-In-Law. I wouldnt really want anything so close, but if its what you want and she doesnt mind then go for it. Do you think you could ask her? I really dont know if it would bother her, it depends on her personality. I think it would really annoy some people while others wouldnt care. To be perfectly honest I would find it a little strange if my Future Sister-In-Law in law wanted practically the same dress just because there are so many different dresses to choose from.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

They are pretty similar, I went through the same thing.  Out of my top 2 choices, one was very similar to my Future Sister-In-Law and her wedding was this year, so it would be within one year of mine, I figured it was too close in time.  If you love it, I would bring it up to her (FSIL), but personally I decided to go with the other dress so it wouldn’t be too much of the same since I did want my dress to be different. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

The dresses are very similar, but isn’t imitation the sincerest form of flattery?  If I were you Future Sister-In-Law I would be flattered that you  liked the style of my dress enough to purchase a similar one.  Also, if you love the dress and the fit you should go for it.  You can make the dress your own with accessories. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

They are VERY similar… honestly I think weddings are a touchy subject when it comes to this type of thing, some people get really annoyed/offended by certain things, and this could be one of them, I’m not sure how your Future Sister-In-Law is, but I might be weirded out by it, they’re just very similar… sorry if that’s not what you want to hear, personally I’d want my dress to be something different than what someone else I knew had, but if you really love this dress, I’d fish around and talk to her to figure out if you think she would mind… it might be hard to know if she’s being truthful or not, but at least you tried, rather than just buying a dress similar to hers, and then her noticing it on her own.  Hope this helps… good luck with what you decide!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would just get the dress you want. It’ll be 3 years. It should be fine!

By The Way I had similar requirements to you and ended up getting the totally awesome Augusta Jones Anya, but if I had found this David’s Bridal dress earlier I would’ve bought it

http://tinyurl.com/ycjh27w

You have to order it online but it’s so cheap that I would just order it and see if it works. You can return without alterations. I do love my dress but it was a lot of money. In fact, I’m going to have to sell it after my February wedding: http://classifieds.weddingbee.com/topic/augusta-jones-anya-size-1210-available-after-220-perfect-for-busty-bees

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Honestly it almost looks like the same dress.  I would maybe consider something else.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I agree that it is hard to find a dress that looks different when you don’t want beads, strapless and simple. I say do it. I tried on the Casablanca and I like the Maggie better AND I think it looks different in the back especially.

I found these three that are different yet similar (with a little beading)

http://www.allurebridals.com/index.php?id=3&product_id=2

http://www.allurebridals.com/index.php?id=3&product_id=105

http://www.allurebridals.com/index.php?id=3&product_id=540

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I personally think it doesn’t matter.  But I’m not a super touchy bride.  It would only make me angry if someone wore the same dress before me, not after…especially not 2 years after…

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m not touchy at all but I would be a little sad if my Future Sister-In-Law wanted to wear practically the same dress however, there is no problem with you asking her if she would mind.  But be prepared to respect her decision.

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