- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Need some advice here… I got engaged back in May, and we have a September 2011 wedding planned. On a whim, I decided to go to the Running of the Brides back in August with the thought “if I find my dream dress here, great, if not, I still have plenty of time left to shop.” So, I ended up buying a dress at the ROTB, mind you I really only got to see the front with the little tiny mirror that we inherited from another group. When I got it home and a friend took 360 degree photos so I could see the other parts of the dress, I stiil liked it, but there were little things that I really didn’t like, and I didn’t think it really flattered my (need to loose 20 lbs before the wedding next year) body.
So, fast forward to November. It’s been really bugging me that I don’t like this dress as “the one” anymore, and I thought it would be fun, and maybe ease my mind to go dress shopping. However – some of my family and friends think I’m crazy for going this early. “You don’t really need to order a dress until 6 months before the wedding.” “If you buy a dress now, you’ll miss all the new styles next spring.” “Why are you worrying about this now – you still have 10 more months until the wedding…. work on other parts of the planning.” The list goes on and on. Its really discouraging – especially when planning this wedding has been so exciting for me. It brings happiness to my usually not-so-fun stressful work days.
The other piece of this is that I really want some of my bridesmaids there when I find “the one.” But, some of them are in the “you’re doing this too early” boat, and I feel like they’re frustrated that I want to do this now. They are going because they want to support me, but don’t agree with my decision. I guess that comes with being a bridesmaid, but, I don’t want to make them feel like I’m pressuring them to go. I almost feel like I’m dragging them out shopping as they’re rolling their eyes at me. Not a fun feeling.
I’m not dead set on buying a dress this weekend, but I’m super excited to at least go look. Is that a bad thing? Why do I feel so conflicted about this!?