(Closed) Too soon for invitations? (October Wedding)

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
2531 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes it is too soon to send invites because some people can’t commit this early. 

I would do Save-The-Date Cards – you’re informing people of when it is so they can make plans. 

Post # 3
1285 posts
Bumble bee

I would send a save the date to everyone and check in with out of country visitors in a couple of months to see if they are planning on coming if you need a headcount. Then send an invitation 2-3 months prior to your wedding.  

Post # 4
1321 posts
Bumble bee

It’s not tacky per se, it’s just that you risk the possibility of people forgetting about the RSVP date and getting a really really low response rate. They in all likelihood would not be able to RSVP right away becaue its so far out, and then forget when to actually RSVP by. 

I would definitely send a STD, I see them as necessary in this case, not just an extra. You of course, don’t ned a fancy magnet or anything if budget doesn’t allow for it. Many people nowadays will send an email with the wedding website, date, and location or just tell out of town people over the phone what the date is. But STD magnets are adorable 🙂 In My Humble Opinion

Post # 5
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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amandarenea:  Not tacky, just impractical. I don’t have any clue what my plans or situation will look like in 9 months. Send out Save-The-Date Cards – this is exactly the kind of situation they were intended for.

Post # 6
2120 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I got married on October 10, and my wedding planners told us Save-The-Date Cards by March 10, and invites by August 10th. 

If you have a lot of out of towners, I would consider them necessary. I consider them necessary anyways, since it gives a heads up to everyone who may not be totally aware of your plans if you want them to come.

Post # 7
4890 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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amandarenea:  Yes, very too soon!

Our wedding was October 17, 2014, and our invites were in the mail by August 9. We had an RSVP date of September 19.

Once we had a date and location, we started telling family/friends who lived out of town so they could start planning – especially those that would fly in for it. We didn’t send out Save-The-Date Cards.

Post # 8
1094 posts
Bumble bee

I think it’s pretty early. My wedding is in June and we are just getting ready to start sending out save the dates, and then invitations will get sent out in April. 
To be honest, if I got a wedding invitation for October 2016 now, I would probably forget all about it by the time October comes along. 

Post # 9
6911 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

I think it’s waaay too soon for invites. If I got an invite now to a wedding in October…I’d have no clue how to respond.

I think Save-The-Date Cards are unnecessary EXCEPT for situations life this. You have a lot of out of towners (and out of country-ers). You should do a STD in the new year. Wait on the actual invitations. 

Post # 10
232 posts
Helper bee

We sent save the dates to out of towners only. Local people we just let them know in person when we saw them. 9-10 months is way too soon. People will forget or can’t commit that early.

Post # 11
4084 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

We’re getting married in October 2016 as well and just ordered our Save-The-Date Cards. We plan to send them out in January so they don’t get lost in all of the holiday mail. We’ll send invites 3 months out since all of our guests are coming for out of town (semi-destination wedding). In your case, I would definitely get Save-The-Date Cards. As PP mentioned, they were made for your situation.

Post # 12
448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I think save the dates right now!

Post # 13
923 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Vineyard on Long Island

Since you’re spanning several countries and probably want to save $$ on both ordering Save-The-Date Cards and postage, can you send a Save The Date e-mail or private Facebook event invite to most of the guests and only send a letter or card to family without access to the internet or social media?  I know its probably not kosher on here, but I’ve had two college friends do e-STDs in the past year or so and it was sufficient to let us know that we were invited and to mark the date on the calendar.  I found it very useful and, honestly, quite practical.

Post # 14
784 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Simsbury 1820 House

Save the Dates.

Post # 15
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I am October 15, 2016 and I just got my Save The Dates! I got 90 STD’s with the envelope and only paid $35.00 from Vista Print. Best deal!

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