(Closed) Too soon to love and buy a dress? Advice Please!

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

From a sentimental side – yes its too early. You arent even engaged yet!  From a realistic side, if its the dress at a good price… might not be a bad idea to buy it and stash it away.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

If you’re positive that he’s going to propose, positive that there is no other dress out there that you would love, and positive that you will still love it by the time you get married, then go for it!

You should probably do a little more research online just to see what else is out there, just in case! πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It sounds like the engagement is a sure thing so I say go for it. A lot of people I’m sure would (and will, if you do it) probably be haters about it, but frankly if you love it and the price is right and it screams THE ONE to you, then screw what anyone else thinks about it. I booked my date and venue before I had my ring (same situation – family stone, waiting for the setting) and people scoffed and were judgy, but I generally don’t care what people think about my life decisions if I know they are right for me. I vote for saying yes to the dress!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Hmmm I’d definitely say wait, tastes do change and venues etc, but that is a really great price! I think if you can keep it a secret from him that you bought it, it may not be such a big deal, but if he knows he may feel that you’re trying to pressure him. I hope I’m making sense.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh and I forgot to say that it seems like you’ve already seen a bunch of dresses so it’s not really an “on a whim” situation. You don’t want it to be “the one that got away.”

Granted this isn’t the same caliber of situation, but a few years back I found THE perfect pair of shoes for an event I was going to a few months down the line and I didn’t buy them because it was “too soon” and by the time I got around to it they were gone, never to be seen again. This was years ago and I STILL think about those damn shoes.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@kittyachi: good point about the shoes!! you may be right, has your mom,etc seen the dress yet?

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It sounds like an engagement is a sure thing and it is a great price. If you think it’s the dress that you can’t live without I say get it and keep it secretly at your mom’s house. :o) Then it would be one less thing to worry about after you are engaged.

I believe in the “DREAM DRESS” I had a friend that was engaged and had the whole wedding planned and the relationship did not work, however the dress was her dream dress and she kept it. Just becuase it wasn’t her dream guy doesn’t mean there can’t be a dream dress. :o) She did just get married to her dream guy and wore the dress. :o)

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Let your mom see it, etc and if push comes to shove put a deposit down on it, it sounds gorgeous though!!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

Have you considered even going and looking at other dresses in person? I just don’t want you to make a rash decision! πŸ™‚

But I’m a little pot-kettle-black here, because after months and months of research, I fell in love with my dream dress (that had also been one of my online dream dresses online) and we ordered it on the spot. πŸ™‚

Edit: And I’d definitely involve your mom, and possibly your soon-to-be Maid/Matron of Honor. πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

have you told your beau that you may have found the dream dress by chance?

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Okay sounds to me like you’re engaged. I really dont understand why there has to be a ring to be “engaged.” If you two are committed to getting married, guess what, that’s it! πŸ™‚ I am a huge bargain shopper and if you found a dream dress for under $500, BUY IT.  It sounds like you’re well versed in dresses and your tastes are not going to change in the next year or two. Also, post pictures when you do!

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