(Closed) …..TOO Tacky????

posted 8 years ago in Favors
Post # 3
1956 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Hahaha, this is funny to me bc there’s been many a thread here on the boards about how almost anything other than edible favors can be considered “tacky” or is just not as appreciated…I think homemade chocolate candies as favors sounds like an AWESOME plan, way better than a picture frame or something…Maybe find some examples of weddings using candy as a favor (show her some beautiful pics of Amy Atlas displays) and she’ll come around? 

Post # 4
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i’d actually much rather get chocolate!

Post # 5
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Mmm chocolate. Can’t go wrong! 

Post # 6
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Edibles are better than non-edibles any day. But really, favors are never required and people will not miss them if they are not there. In fact, I’ve also seen edibles get left behind. If your mother wants to spend her own money on something that will automatically get left behind and/or thrown in the trash, that’s her perogative but she has no right to make you feel guilty for not going that route.

Post # 7
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

This is what we’re planning on, so I’m really really hoping no one thinks it’s super tacky!  Please, bees?  Don’t make me go back to the drawing board on this one!  πŸ˜‰

Post # 8
646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Since when is chocolate tacky?  I love chocolate!

Post # 9
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Not at all.  I like chocolate favors, too….instead of stuff you’ll never use (candles, frames, etc.)

Is mom willing to buy the favors?  If so…perhaps she can spend her money on whatever she suggests as favors that a “proper Italian girl” should have.

For our favors, we’re putting a little card in each chair that says:

In lieu of favors, we donated to __ charity in your name.
However, we don’t want our guests to go home empty handed.
An unlimited “sweet table” (European desserts) will be provided after dinner.
Please feel free to eat some (or a lot) and take some (or a lot) home.
Take home boxes will be available at the sweet table.
Enjoy and thank you for being a part of our wedding day!

Post # 10
2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

It’s not tacky at all to do chocolates! But your mom is coming from a different reference point. She may be feeling sad that your wedding won’t be as traditional as she imagined. It’s normal to grieve the losses that come from living in another country. Maybe you could appease her by referencing that tradition somehow. Like, maybe do one bomboniere per table and have it be the prize for the longest married couple or the guest who travelled the farthest at that table. You could tie a little note to it explaining that bomboniere’s are a traditional Italian favor and that you are happy to share this small tradition with them.

Or if you are doing other things that are traditional in Italian weddings, maybe you could make a note of them in your program. Like, “X and Y are traditions at Italian weddings. The X we are using belonged to the bride’s mother and was used at her wedding in Rome.”

Post # 11
554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Chocolate is not tacky! It’s delicious! πŸ™‚

Maybe to compromise, try and find a good deal on containers to put the chocolate in that would appease your mother.. then people could take home cute tins or wooden boxes or something they could reuse? I don’t know. Chocolate just seems fine to me… but that could just be my perpetual sweet tooth talking πŸ˜‰ 


@hazel920 I like your charity donation/European dessert favor!

Post # 12
173 posts
Blushing bee

OK, coming from an Italian background I can understand where your mother’s coming from but I agree with everyone else – I think the chocolate is a great idea!  I think that if doing favors, edible is the way to go – who wants another random tchotke lying around the house?  Team chocolate!  πŸ™‚

Post # 14
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Not tack! And usually homemade turns out do yummy! Just get a cute box, they are not pricey at all.


I’m doing stemless wineglasses! Found them for $1,19 and mexican wedding cookies in a small clear bag

Post # 15
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

No tacky at all…if mom is willing to foot the bill for fancy favors, by all means:-)

Post # 16
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

No way is it tacky – and since when is giving out candy “tacky” at an Italian wedding? All of my italian cousins did it. And, um… Jordan Almonds? They’re a huge Italian tradition – that’s candy isn’t it?

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