- 3 years ago
- Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery
DH designed my engagement ring with a local jeweler based off of rings we had looked at together and rings I had shown him. What we picked out at the store (same place he bought from) was a plain platiunum shank knife edge with claw prongs. This is a photo from that day (stone wasn’t set).
DH proposed with this in May 2014– essentially the same ring; platinum knife edge but with pave halfway around the band, and it’s a bit thinner (maybe 1.6mm?)
This is what my ring looks like today. I work in an office, I don’t wear it to the gym (I have a silicone Qualo ring), and I don’t even sleep or shower in it. It’s totally warped and bent. I’ve been wearing it just over two years. Sizing beads in it because I’m between sizes.
With my wedding ring made by the same jeweler (also platinum, wearing for 9 mo.) for reference. It has flush set diamonds around it.
You can see how thin it is here. (sorry all the pics are sideways!)
Obviously, this is not great and we are not pleased. We took it and and they said it was “pretty normal” and they’d have to keep it for up to a week to fix it. We are leaving for an international trip on Friday and I thought it would be a good time to leave it with them since I wouldn’t be wearing it any way.
My dilemma is this: DH wants to change out the stone, he’s not happy with the color of it so we’ll likely be doing that in the next year or so. Also, I’m afraid of them fixing it and then this happening again or worse–it getting so bent some of the pave falls out. We’ve already decided we want this jeweler to fix it and then we won’t be working with them any more, as we think this is ridiculous and shouldn’t be happening to platinum (marked) after 2 years.
So, do we just have them fix it as is or should we have them remove the pave, build up the ring a little thicker, and leave it as a plain shank and (later/soon) reset the pave into a stacking band? I think I eventually want to reset the pave anyway as I prefer a plain shank and I’d love the option of a sparkly band to wear with my wedding band. But I’m a bit torn on this as it is the ring he proposed with…
I’m just concerned that with it being so thin, this will keep happening, which will eventually degrade the strength of the ring and the pave settings.
Consider this a warning–shanks CAN be too thin to be stable!