(Closed) Too white to wear to a wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 31
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Worker bee

I wouldn’t mind it, but if I’m ever in doubt, I just pick a new dress.  There are a million dresses out there, so why stress out about it? 

Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think it is fine. I don’t think a dress can be “too white” unless it is ALL white/ivory and could be reasonably mistaken as a wedding dress. This has a nice amount of color and is obviously not a wedding dress. With bridal colors now going into blush/champagne, are bridezillas going to make those colors ‘off limits’ too?  

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Jesus, some people really do go bat shit over their 15 minutes of fame.

This dress has too much white? Really? What does too much mean? To me, “too much white” = “could be mistaken for a bridal dress” and if anyone would mistake this dress for a bride’s, well… the issue is not with the person wearing the dress. 

For those who think that even a “touch of white” should be off limits for a wedding guest: you’re ridiculous and you’re making life really hard for your guests. You would be offended if someone wore something like this to your wedding? And when you’re having a destination wedding (at a beach/resort, I assume, hence the flip flops) it’s going to be nearly impossible to find light, summery, appropriate dresses that don’t have even a spec of white on them. Somehow, I think your marriage will still be valid. 

OP, I don’t think the dress has too much white. I also think it’s hideous, but again, that’s not really the wearer of the dress’s problem so, if you like it, go for it.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

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CityGirl:  Because of the print, I think it is perfectly fine. If it was just plain white then I would say no. I know people say not to draw attention away from the bride, but unless the bride is just someone that no one pays attention to anyway, (typically) how you dress is not going to take away from her.

Post # 35
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I like the dress and don’t think it’s too white. I would have been fine if you wore that to my wedding.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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Taeyers:  amen sister

Post # 37
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Blushing bee

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Mstar:  So….the men aren’t going to be wearing white shirts, or what?<br /> That’s why I don’t understand people who are crazy about this rule. Lacy white dresses, sure, maybe don’t do that unless the bride has made it clear and public that she doesn’t care (like, if she’s not wearing a white dress herself). But if every man there is wearing a white shirt, are hints of white in a printed dress going to be extra jarring? Are there that many prints that don’t incorporate white anywhere?

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think it will be too hot in Alabama in July to wear long sleeves

Post # 40
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2015

 

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bgu073:  Ok so maybe I misspoke when I said a speck of white would bother me, but a white dress like the one originally posted would bother me.  It’s traditional the the bride is the only WOMAN wearing white.  I don’t particularly feel the need to be apologetic about my feelings on the issue.  I am not traditional except on this one point.  And as someone in the wedding industry (who literally attends hundreds of wedding each year) if you think I haven’t seen a bride go totally postal about a similar issue you would be wrong.   Now I would never behave that way because that IS ridiculous but as a guest you really never know whats gonna set a bride off on one of the most stressful days of their lives.  MY POINT is, if you know this is an issue for some brides why even go there?  

 

 

Post # 41
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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carolinabelle:  See my last comment.  I admit I misspoke about not wanting a speck of white.  But yeah the dress originally posted would bother me.  Too MUCH white.  Just my opinion.  Which is what the poster asked for.

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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Mstar: Oh, I believe you have seen brides go postal over something this irrelevant – bitches be crazy. That doesn’t make it my (or another guest’s) job to control or cater to someone else’s emotional instability. I don’t care if it’s your wedding day, birthday, inauguration, or freaking funeral; this dress is not a bridal dress and it’s perfectly appropriate for a wedding guest. As a wedding professional, for your own wedding I would think you would realize the important thing is not the details of the day (especially guest attire), but the fact that you are married at the end of it. But again, some people really do go batshit over their 15 minutes of fame. 

Post # 43
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Blushing bee

I’m starting to think that this site is a good place to remind myself that I know a lot of really well-adjusted people IRL. Just checked all my summer dresses that I am considering wearing to upcoming weddings, and very few of them don’t have white in them somewhere (stripes, dots, parts of floral patterns, trims). I hope nobody comes up to me and says, “Excuse me, are you the bride? Oh, sorry, I was mistaken by the blinding white parts of that dress. You are twins with that woman over there, whom I already knew was the bride because I know this couple, and also she is wearing a lacy ballgown. But, your dress has a white background, so you understand my mistake.”

Post # 44
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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carolinabelle:  I don’t really think it’s about “15 minutes of fame” as you call it.  Well, maybe for some people it is, but 20 people are coming to my backyard wedding so clearly not an ego fest there.  I guess for whatever reason the “white thing” is the ONE traditional aspect that my crazy Italian family drilled into me so hard that it stuck.  We agree to disagree.  Again, the poster was looking for opinions and I gave one.  Also, as a wedding professional I appreciate when guests don’t do things that will make the bride EXTRA crazy.  So I was giving my opinion from that perspective as well.  And yeah….some brides be crazy…..haha

Post # 45
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Blushing bee

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Mstar:  Well, sounds like you’re going to be able to get the word out among your friends/family about your wishes, which is fine if you have something that you want to be strict about. I would be alarmed, however, at a bride at a large wedding who goes ballistic at a guest wearing what I think the majority of people would view as an acceptable dress.

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