(Closed) Too Young?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you should do what you feel and think you’re ready for. If you two are mature, committed and understand the time and effort a marriage takes, that’s your decision. Personally, I don’t think at 20 I would have been ready for marriage, but that was me. I changed a lot in my early to mid-20’s. I’m sure I’ll continue to change and grow, but Darling Husband and I will work to grow and change together rather than apart. Only you guys know your relationship and what you’re ready for!

Post # 4
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2091 posts
Buzzing bee

I’ll be 20 when I get married, and I am ready. If you are mature enough to realize the huge life decision you are making, and are ready for all that comes along with a marriage (so much more than just a wedding), and your partner feels the same way, absolutely get married. Age has nothing to do with it, really. It’s all about maturity.

Post # 7
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Gonna have to say yes, I think you’re too young. I thought I was ready too at 20, but guess how much I changed from 20-26 a whole helluva lot.

But hey, what does my opinion matter?

Post # 8
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Hey, do want feels right to you but I will say…

There is NO harm in taking your time. If you love each other now, you’ll love eachother in 5 years. And in those 5 years you can get your college degree. Travel. Do what YOU want to do. My thinking is – once you get married you and your hubby are officially a family, and you can longer just think of yourself. Which is wonderful and amazing and blah blah blah. But everyone deserves a few years to just do what they want to do. Spend your money the way you want to. Hang out with friends when you want to. Really pursue all the goals you want to – that way you’ll never have any regrets.

That’s just my thinking. You have your whole life ahead of you – don’t be in a rush to grow up.

Post # 9
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2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@MissComicBook: Honestly, I wanted to marry the guy I was dating when I was 20. He proposed, I had a ring, we figured out college, everything. Looking back, I’ll always love him, but am so glad I never married him. He and I just grew apart. I don’t say this because I know you or know whether you’re old enough for marraige. I just wanted to relate my experience with being engaged at 20.

Post # 11
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2091 posts
Buzzing bee

@MissComicBook: My friends and family have been very good about my engagement, thankfully, and I’m younger than you. My mom brought up all the “what happens if you want to go out drinking/partying/clubbing with your friends?” scenarios and honestly, I’m just not that interested in doing that. And if I do decide I want to go out, my Fiance will come with me or I’ll go with the girls. Getting married doesn’t mean the end of your social life! I hate when people assume that. Are you engaged yet? Does your boyfriend feel the same way you do?

Post # 13
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

And another thing, the reason a lot of older women will say WAIT. Is because guess what? We’ve been 20 and in love before. At 20 I thought I was with the man I wanted to marry and spend the rest of my life with. It took a few years for me to realize he was not the right one for me and we wanted very different things in life. When I was 20 I thought it was perfect. By 21 I started feeling something was off. By 22 I knew that we were completely wrong for each other. If you had told me that at 20 I would’ve laughed in your face.

Post # 14
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3521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

If you think you’re too young, you are. If you don’t, then you’re not. 😉 Make sense? I got engaged at 19, married at 21, am almost 22 now and we’re doing great. It’s a matter of getting your stuff in order, knowing where you want to go in life, etc. I think those things should come before marriage–you and your spouse-to-be should set clear goals for a few months from now, five years from now, ten, etc. and stick to them. It’s important to have personal AND joint goals as well. You have to really know yourself and your SO to know how to grow together.

I think there’s such an attitude of “WELL, you’ll change!” that people forget that we are constantly changing throughout the course of our lives. It’s not like you change once from 20-25 and it’s a done deal.

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