(Closed) Too young but still dreaming about an engagement

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Welllll if it helps! you could always tell him being married & still in college you can usually recieve a LOT of fianicial aid!

 

I know a couple that has their full living expenses paid for through pell grant (I believe it’s that one) and whatever other stuff they got! lol

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am 20 and engaged! I don’t think there is any specific age that makes you too young!

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I feel you. What’s worse is when you graduate from college before him so he’s still not ready but you are. Argh.
How much more school do you have left? I hope for your sake that he will be ready to get engaged sooner than you think πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@kalford11: My Fiance and I dated all through college as well but our relationship matured and changed so much when we graduated and were working.  Each couple is different, but I know for us, if we had tried to get married in college, we wouldn’t have stayed together.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I was ready to be engaged and married before Fiance was, and he’s more than 2 years older than me. Actually, right around the time I stopped talking about it and just decided it would be a while and I’d just have to deal is when he realized he DID want to be engaged and proposed. I still have at least 1 year of school left, I’ll be 21 when we get married. And as a PP said, the financial aid is pretty spectacular πŸ™‚

The best advice I can give is to remember that it WILL happen and just try to enjoy where you’re at right now. Even though it feels far away, you won’t get this time right now back ever again so try to just enjoy being with your SO and spending time with him. If he’s willing, maybe talk about future plans, like where you’ll live, what kind of house you want, fun stuff, and you can just be excited for those times together.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with Galloway, just enjoy what you have now. I can tell you for a little bit I was def on the mental fritz I was sooo ready while waiting on the Mr. to come to the same conclusion (we are always right after all) that in the end it drove us both a little nuts. If you are certain that he’ll get there…then let him

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@kalford11: Hang in there, bee! πŸ™‚ I know the waiting sucks. Do what you can to ask the right questions of yourself and each other, keep learning, keep loving, keep being you.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

We got engaged a few months before we graduated – but won’t be married until we’ve been done for almost a year. I think it really works. So it’s not as if you’re too early to be thinking or hinting about it. πŸ˜‰ He needs time to pick a ring of course. You can get married after you graduate.

ETA: We’d been together a similar amount of time to you guys when we were engaged. We’ll be at ~4 years.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

It’s okay to fantasize πŸ™‚ I’m 23 and my SO is 24 and we’ve been together 3 years. I dream about it ALL THE TIME, especially because my best friend and sister just got married. I know I’m too young (for me… not saying 23 is too young for everyone!) and that my SO is not ready. As long as me and SO are on the same track as far as what we want in the future, I can wait. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

The important thing is that you both are ready, you could have a long engagementto sort things out

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am a strong believer in not rushing through life, enjoy being young and studying, you have years ahead of you for engagements and marriage. It wasn’t even on our radar until I was 26 and Darling Husband was 31 (we had been together 8 years before we were engaged and then engaged for 18 months). 

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