(Closed) Too young to be a flower girl?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Hmm. Tough one. Could she be the first one to be pulled out in a wagon whilst throwing petals or something? That could look really cute and heart-melting. The ushers could pull it, as you said, and the other flower girl could be walking behind.

The only other thing I’d keep in mind is that kids chatter and wriggle pretty much uncontrollably at that age, which may happen through the ceremony, but that may not bother you.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Sure, she may be too young to make it down the aisle herself, but I love your idea of having another flower girl walk with her. That would be adorable. I, too, have a goddaughter and will want to include her in my wedding day…I think you might regret leaving her out, down the road, if that’s what you decide to do. Best of luck!

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I don’t think it’s fair to expect a six-year-old to be responsible for a 16-month-old. I realize it’s just a walk down the aisle, but kids can really act up in ways you don’t expect when at the center of that kind of attention. It can be flustering enough for an adult, but to ask another young child to take that kind of responsibility while she’s also in the spotlight seems a bit much to ask.

It’s great that you want to include her, but why not just get her a similar dress as the flower girl and let her be in pictures? That’s what you’ll look at years down the road. It’s not like the girl will remember any of it regardless of what you do.

I get a desire for having equal numbers, but no one at your wedding will notice or care when it comes to the kids.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Honestly, I think 16 months is way too young to be a flower girl.  Some kids aren’t even walking by 16 months and walking in front of so many people will probably not go over well.   I think babies can look quite cute in flower girl dresses but if you want them to actually perform their task, your best bet would be omitting the baby.   Also, at 16 months, she’s not going to be able to stand or even sit quietly during the ceremony and it could potentially be quite distracting for your Bridesmaid or Best Man (the baby’s mother) to have to entertain her during the ceremony.   

I understand you wanting her in the wedding but I don’t think it’s necessary.   Darling Husband wanted to include his only niece in our wedding but she was only 2 and I said no.   I don’t regret that decision in the slightest as I still think she was too young.   Also, as for the symmetry you talked about – I don’t think it will be thrown off with only one Flower Girl, especially as all of the other kids are a fair bit older.  I actually think it will look more awkward with three children and one baby/toddler, but that’s just my opinion!  

Good luck!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I wanted so badly for my 6 month old neice to be our flowergirl in our wedding in January.  I thought about having the ring bearer pull her down in a wagon but a) I did not trust our ring bearer to do this haha (he’a a bit unpredictable and b) We were in a church and I felt awkward having a wagon in a church.  Instead, both my brother and sister in law were in the wedding party so we had them walk down the aisle first carrying her.  It gave us the most precious pictures of her, and I think it was a special moment for my brother and sister to walk down the aisle together holding their daughter who was a result of their walk down the aisle 5 years before.   I definitely think you can include her in the ceremony!  the logistics can be a little difficult, but I like both the wagon idea and the idea of having the older girl help her down the aisle.   

Here’s my little niece 🙂  

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

@Aggie10:  thats a beautiful photo and memory

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Aggie10:  that’s how my almost 1 yr old niece came down the isle as well! 🙂 in a tutu too!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Aggie10:  Aw, that’s really lovely.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I say keep her in and have the two flower girls. If the two have plenty of time to get to know each other before the wedding, then the little one would feel more comfortable following/being helped by the older flowergirl down the aisle. I find it very strange that the mother of the toddler is slightly offended you want two girls. I would feel the same way if I were you… a 16 month old is so unpredictable!!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Our flower girl is the daughter of one of our groomsmen and one of our bridesmaids. She will be close to 6 months at the time of the wedding. Our bridesmaid will be carrying her down the aisle! 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My niece was 18 months, I wasn’t expecting much but she was too cute not to have as a flower girl. My brother ended up holding her walking down because she was about to have a melt down

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@eloping:  & @Jezika: Thank you!  I just love her to pieces!

@yellowshoe:  Precious!! 

@almostmrsdiaz:  If you’re worried about the unpredictability of a 16 month old, also keep in mind that if she doesn’t walk down the aisle in a perfectly straight line it’s okay!  If she goes a little off course people will just think she’s that much more adoarable.  I mean I can see where a full melt down cry in the aisle situation might not be cute, but there’s not a huge chance of that happening.  Worse case scenario she gets stage fright and her momma can come help her down the ailse and into the arms of a family member waiting near by so the mom can be your bridesmaid without worrying about holding her daughter the whole time.  At DH’s brother’s wedding, the flower girl got upset and scared so the bride held her hand and walked down the aisle with her dad on one side and the flower girl on the other.  It was actually a really sweet moment. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I was flower girl at 2.5 years old and the bride made me hold on to her train for dear life as she walked down the aisle…..hehe!!!!  it worked fine but I was drilled by my mum for months leading up to the day!!!

I will have a 13month old nephew and and a 3year old neice. along with my 10yr old and 12 your cousins in my bridal party…i was going to get them to escort the little ones down. If they cry, go shy, wet their pants or scream.. it’ll be part of the fun and wouldn’t bother me too much!! Its up to you in the end.

 

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