Post # 62
I ALWAYS feel like it’s not my place to tell anyone how to live their lives, but you did ask! 🙂 I think you are too young…but I don’t know you. Maybe you are a very mature 18 y.o. It’s just that I was 30 when I became engaged, and that felt just about right…for me (I was 23 the first time I was proposed to & felt I was WAY too young -ha!) (Sorry about all of the ( ) and ellipses…) I just have not personally known anyone who married young to stay married is all. I just wouldn’t want you to make that mistake. At least try to wait until you are graduated from college -you don’t need one more thing to plan and stress about. He’ll still be there. My NIECE is 20 and has been with her boyfriend for 2 or 3 years and the idea of her marrying him right now is crazy to me. But again, whatever you decide -it’s YOUR choice, and I wish you both well no matter what!
Post # 63
- Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA
@daniellemybelle: I wasn’t saything that people under 28 aren’t mature enough to get married. I was just saying it might be the only time in a person’s life that they can be completely independent without having to compromise with someone else, and if they get married before then, they miss that opportunity.
Post # 64
I don’t think there is a “ready to wed” age – I think it has to do with maturity. For me, I graduated university at 20. I graduated from law school at 23. I was 23 when I passed the bar and began working for a law firm. While most people would say 23 is too young to be married, know many men and women in their 30’s and 40’s who do not have the maturity or world experience that I do. I try not to judge someone by their age, but rather by what stage of their life they are currently in.
Post # 66
We started dating when I was 16 and he was 17. We decided to wait until after we are out of college so we have our own place, money and jobs. We are engaged now at 21 and 22 but will be 23 and 24 when we get married.
Post # 67
I voted for under 20 is too young, but I think it depends on the circumstances. For me personally, I put much more stock in how long people have been together (I know there are a lot of people on here who don’t agree with that…it’s only my opinion). I have some friends that have been together for about 6 years (2 different couples), but they are only in their early 20s. I support their relationship more than I support a 35 year old who has only been with someone for 7 months.
Different circumstances would also affect my thoughts on this. What the community norm is, what kind of support you have, whether you’ve been taking care of yourself (financially) and for how long, are there kids involved, have you completed college (these questions are not directed to the OP…just general questions that I would take into consideration).
In any case, if you have to ask, you’re too young.