(Closed) Too Young?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I vote for the one with the straps. If even with the straps its still a little too old for her…I would find a cute jacket or wrap to cover he shoulders a little.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Maybe I’m just conservative, but I think a sweatheart neckline is a bit too “old” for a pre-teen.  Plus, I doubt she’s got the, er, stuff, to hold it up properly.  The second dress would be more appropriate, I think.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2010

does the bmdress come with spaghetti straps? does it come in her size. if both of those are yes, i think it would be fine.  of course, it’s hard to tell without seeing her. 12 year olds always seem to look way older or way younger to me!

might be best to just let her decide.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

IMO, both of those dresses are a too formal/mature for a 12 year old.  I’d look for something not floor length and without a plunging/v-neck neckline.  Those just don’t seem appropriate for a 12-year-old.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think either would be fine (the one with straps might need an insert). Why don’t you ask her parents? I’m sure her mother would be more than inclined to let you know what she thinks is appropriate. I think if the strapless is up high enough it would be fine (maybe even accessorize with some more age appropriate items?). I would definately ask her mom though. I know at 12 I was not comfortable wearing a strapless so maybe she won’t be either.

Post # 8
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595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

First one

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I think it does look too mature for a 12 year old (I do think it’s a beautiful dress though).  You also might want to consider asking her parents what they feel comfortable with her wearing.  I know it’s your wedding, but beings she is underage by quite a bit, they might still be a little sensitive to how she dresses.  Plus, I’m sure they’ll appreciate the gesture!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I like the idea of a dress with straps.  The first dress is pretty and even with spaghetti straps it might be appropriate, but does she have the hips to fill it out?  If not the dress might hang funny. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I actually like the strapless one.  Is that girl 11 or 12?  I would consult mom!

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@caszos: Yeah – I’ll second the idea that most twelve year olds do not have the necessary body shape (basically enough hips and boobs) to really wear either of the dresses posted.  They’re are designed for women with women’s bodies.  You’d probably be better of looking at dresses the are designed specifically for junior BMs.  They are going to fit a 12-year-old much better.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

As a pp said, just have her wear a jacket or wrap to wear over.  I don’t remember who, but a bride posted pictures here a day or two ago and one of her bm who was younger had a jacket over and I thought it looked perferct.  I’d be uncomfotable with my 12 y/o in a strapless dress.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would definitely ask her parents, and her.

IMO I thnk both dresses might be ‘too mature.’ Maybe I’m just turning into a prude in my old age lol.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I was just about to say the same thing! I’d do the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, but add a bolero jacket or have sleeves or something added to the dress. Or maybe you do a similar strapless dress but have hers be knee length?

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