(Closed) Top 5 most/least worthwhile wedding expenses?

posted 10 years ago in Money
Post # 32
3331 posts
Sugar bee

My most worthwhile:

  1. Venue–we splurged and got our first choice, dream venue
  2. Food–People are still raving about how delish the dinner was!
  3. Photography–the photos last forever, so we really wanted them to be great.
  4. DJ and musicians–The reception rocked!

I don’t know that I would say that anything we spent was not worthwhile, but I’m glad we hardly spent anything on flowers (flowers for the whole wedding were less than $60) because they weren’t necessary.

Post # 33
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Must have top 5:

1.  Photobooth – great candid shots of everyone                                       

2.  Videographer – there is so much you miss out on

3.  Alcohol – keeps the party going

4.  DOC – she was a huge help

5.  Venue – if it’s pretty it doesn’t need as much decoration 

Least important:

1.  Cake – Mom’s insisted but I would have been good w/cupcakes

2.  Invitations – I printed our own and they looked great

3.  Veil and jewelry – ordered mine online for a great price

4.  Transportation – we used Brett’s convertible Mustang

5.  Flowers – our red carnations looked beautiful

Post # 34
1732 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Most worth it/top priorities:

1.  photography

2.  dress

3.  flowers

4.  open bar

5.  reception in a hotel


Least worth it/lowest priorities:

1.  chair covers

2.  live band

3.  custom, super fancy engraved invitations

4.  extensive linens

5.  out of town bags

Post # 35
2530 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

*bump* im hoping more people will respond to this because its another post I find really helpful!!

Post # 36
1209 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I love your list and totally agree! People get caught up in the little things that really don’t matter!

Post # 37
1738 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

most worthy

1- food

2- alchool

3- dress

4- music

5- hoenymoon


less worthy

1- std (we made a youtube video and sent it)

2- real flower (they die, we are using Moroccan lantern and feather roses for the bouquet and boutonnière)

3- invitation (i bought a ready to print kit only $20)

4- limo (why?)

5- professional makeup (i can do it myself)


Post # 38
3613 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Most important:

1. Venue

2. Dress

3. Photography

4. Music

5. Hair/makeup


Least important:

1. Cake

2. Flowers

3. Invitations

4. Save the dates

5. Favors


Post # 39
9 posts
  • Wedding: June 2009


Most worthwhile:

1) Great rings.  After it is all over you are going to be wearing these every day.  Pick something beautiful, durable and timeless.  Low profile is a good idea.

2) A great suit for your guy.  Not only will he look terrific but this is actually USEFUL long after the wedding, unlike the giant white marshmallow.

3) Bustier.  Last minute purchase deemed necessary by my super smart sister.  Transferred the weight of strapless dress off my small bust and onto my hips.  Not having my dress slowly slide down with every person I hugged: priceless.

4) Super Photographer

5) Fantastic Officiant who knows you and can set the proper tone (whatever you wish that to be).  

6) Thank you cards for all; wedding albums for parents/grandparents.  A huge hit.


Least Worthwhile:

1) Paper STDs/Invitations: Designed lovely stds/invitations that were sent out as email attachments.  RSVP was also by email (had final numbers within 3 days of sending invitation- made all further planning/budgeting much easier).  Cost 0$. 

2) Favors (nobody cares) Ditto out of town baskets, chair covers etc

3) The expensive dress.  You need a dress that looks terrific but there are many lovely reasonably priced dresses out there.  I know, I know, I drooled over the Oscar de la Rentas too…. but seriously.   Think hard about what you want to do on your wedding day: laugh, embrace, eat, and dance, (breathing and peeing are also recommended).  Make sure you dress can easily perform all of these tasks.  Extra points if it doesn’t make you feel as though you have to suck your tummy in the whole time.  and yes EVERYONE is going to step on it.

4) High heels.  There is enough pain in the wedding process (guest list!?) without inflicting it on yourself.  Think about it: you will not be sitting down for at least six hours, you will be dancing…  do you even want to spend 10 seconds on your wedding day wishing that your feet didn’t hurt?  I know you are thinking that you will just switch to flip flops but flip flops are useless for dancing and the loss of height will cause your dress to puddle around you.  Wear. Fab. Flats.  Hem dress accordingly. 

5) Fondant. 

Post # 40
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Top Priorities:

1.) Photographer. We really connect with ours, on both a personal and professional level, which will make the wedding that much more fun.

2.) Caterer. We probably overspent for our tiny budget, but since our venue was free, we decided to splurge on really amazing food. And we plan to eat a lot of it! 🙂

3.) Save-the-dates and invitations. I know I’m in the minority on this one, but I think that paper goods are very important. For me, they set the tone of the wedding, and well, they were just really fun to make. 🙂 (Maybe this is because I’m an invitation designer.)

4.) Favors. Also in the minority, but I love the idea that our guests will take home a delicious little souvenir. I keep thinking of how fun it was to get goody bags at birthday parties when you were a kid–same concept, bigger scale. 

5.) Alcohol. Strong and plenty, please.

(Venue would have been on this list as well, but ours was free, so the value is … unquantifiable? 🙂

Low Priorities:

1.) Live music. While nice, it would have been unfitting to our intimate cottage wedding.

2.) Expensive dress. I found one I love for next to nothing and I’ve never had dress guilt.

3.) Centerpieces. Yeah.

4.) Flowers in general. We’re just going to DIY ours and hope that they’ll be beautiful even if they haven’t been professionally arranged.

5.) Fancy cake. “Tasty” is more important than “ornamental” to us, and we can get a yummy cake for much less, if it’s not covered in fondant and elaborately decorated.

Post # 41
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Top priority:

1) Rings

2) Food

3) Honeymoon

4) Venue

5) Photos

Less priority:

1) paper stuff (invites mostly)

2) cake

3) flowers

4) couture dress (under $500 please!)

5) STD’s (didn’t have ’em!)

6) Limo (didn’t have it!)

7) church ceremony (didn’t have it)

8) bridesmaid dresses (they didn’t have to be ‘perfect’, they just had to be, and they had to be affordable and in the color, that was my only need)

9) anything “extra” as in not necessary

Post # 42
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am on a strict budget so of course I read this article like it’s my Bible.  I am glad to know that I am saving a ton of money because everyone’s least list is mine as well.  Does that make sense???

Post # 43
1220 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009





Middle of the road:

my mom did my flowers.  they turned out great

dress (it was $400, no alterations)


Least worth it:

paper products (no one notices)

favors (didn’t do it)

cake (didn’t have one)

Post # 44
118 posts
Blushing bee

Most Worthwhile:

1. Photography – goes without saying

2. Makeup & Hair – I do my own makeup everyday, but could never have done as good a job as my MUA did. I looked great the whole night! Glad I didn’t let anyone talk me out of this. 

3. DJ – Our DJ helped keep us on track in terms of timing of events and even got some of our non dancing relatives out on the floor.

4. Venue – beautiful venue = less money to decorate it

5. Officiant – the ceremony is THE event of the day so make sure it’s someone you’re comfortable with. 

6. Dress fitting – Even if you think your dress fits off the rack you could probably look better. I’ve seen some brides who try to save money this way and I think it can look a bit sloppy.

Least Worthwhile:

1. Favors – I think edible favors are ok, but not necessary. Most others end up in the trash so save your money.

2. Videography – Maybe important to some, but I know I would rarely look at it, so not worth the money for a professional to me. I look back at photos all the time so I’d much rather put the money there.

3. Transportation – For some large groups it might be handy, but we had a small wedding party and ceremony and reception at the same location.

4. Chair covers – For the amount of money you spend on the cover and sash you could probably rent good looking chairs. I also just don’t care for them since heels can get caught on them and sashes can fall off or get crooked and look messy in photos.

5. Expensive shoes – They don’t really get seen and my 4″ heels hurt so bad I had to take them off after our 1st dance.

Post # 45
483 posts
Helper bee


Post # 46
9815 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Most Worthwhile:

1. Photography- spent about $3100 and it was worth every penny.

2. Photobooth- I love them but I was unsure if I should spend the $ on it. Everyone LOVED it. Kids, grandparents, aunts, uncles, everyone!

3. Alcohol- Kind of a given for me. It creates more of a party atmosphere.

4. DJ- also kind of a given, because they read the audience and keep the party going. I had lots of compliments on the music I picked out for dinner too.

5. Makeup/Hair- I spent a decent amount paying for me and 5 Bridesmaid or Best Man hair/makeup but I really enjoyed that part of the day and everyone looked wonderful.

Least Worthwhile:

1. Venue- I loved mine but my second favorite would have been just as nice and probably would have saved me $3k.

2. Dress- I loved mine but I put dress here because I think there are so many amazing dresses under $2k that there isn’t really any need to spend more than that. You still want to love it though!

3. Centerpieces- If I was more creative I probably would have done something with less flowers for cheaper. No one really cared about them. I’m just happy I didn’t spend that much on mine ($45 ea).

4. Invitations- Probably should have made my own to save money since no one remembers them but you.

5. Coordinator- I didn’t have one. I made sure I hired the best people I could fine and they all did great on their own! I could see how one would be nice (maybe necessary depending on how elaborate your wedding is) but I don’t think it’s worth the $.

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