Post # 1
I’m a little envious of all the 20something brides (no crows-feet in the photos!) But there are some advantages to getting married in our 30s. Here’s my top 5:
5. We’re more established financially. Not that it means we’ll spend more, just that we’re more secure in our spending.
4. Our friends that are attending the wedding will be our friends for life (not school/partying acquaintances we’ve since lost touch with)
3. We’re more focused on the things that matter. In my 20s, I was more focused on appearances
2. Our relationship has strong roots. We are ready for marriage.
1. Pinterest didn’t exist when I was in my 20s.
Post # 4
Love this, lets add to it!
All my friends were married so I didn’t have to pay for a bunch of random dates. Or have complaints about not getting to have dates!
Post # 5
@MsJ2theZ: Ha! No random dates – so true.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I’m 30 so I fit, yay! Love this.
My friends are also more established in their careers, so I don’t have to feel bad about asking them to fly and/or drive to the middle of nowhere for our wedding.
Our family members (aunts, uncles, etc) are more like friends now than when we were younger, so the reception will be that much more fun.
Post # 7
For me, being a bride in my 30’s meant:
1. Financial stability, he didn’t sweat too much about the ring (completely gorgeous and much too big!) and he got a stunning watch. We also paid for our wedding so we had more of a say in it.
2. I had a more mature relationship with my mom (who would have made my life hell in my 20’s)
3. I was able to pull off a sleak, elegant gown that highlighted a sophisticated bride
4. My job-I’m no longer trying to earn my strips, so I had time saved up and I took it. Between the wedding and honeymoon, I took off over 5 weeks (over 6 months). My job isn’t super stressful (like the one I had in my 20’s was).
5. I wasn’t born with good taste or the ability to organize and manage an event as complicated as a wedding, I developed these skills over time and experience, so I think my wedding benefitted from that.
Post # 9
This is an awesome post! yay 30’s women!
Post # 10
Haha – just realizing this the other day.
1. Being financially able to afford the wedding of my dreams – but also realizing that the wedding of my dreams doesn’t cost a fortune (both of these took time and wisdom :)). I’m sticking to my budget and even though we can realistically afford more – I’m saying enough is enough. It’s not going to be the *most* amazing day of my life – I’ve had lots of those and many more will come. Also not having parents pay for anything means, we tell them what’s going to happen and they either show up or not. Which bring us to point 2…
2. A much more mature relationships with my parents. They are (or at least pretend to be) ok with my choices. They don’t create problems in my wedding planning, because I don’t let them…
3. I’m ok with my body, even though it looks nothing like it did when I was in my 20s. I’m going to try to eat right, excercise and slim down a bit, but I’m not going to obsess over it. As my fiance basically said, “I’ve dated models before who hated their body. You like your body and even though I could say you could be 10 pounds skinner, you would probably just tell me to f*#$ off and that’s great”. Haha
4. We don’t worry so much what others will think. If I want to put all my stuffed animals in a wagon and drag it down the aisle, I will do it. We want them to have an amazing time (and we’re planning a party that’s focused a lot more on guests having fun than about us us us), but I’m so not putting up with whiners. In one ear, out the other.
5. Having the confidence to say even if everything goes to hell on the day of – it’ll probably be funny and make for a good story and I’ll probably still end up married, so that’s great 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
5. The wedding I would have had in my 20’s would not have been something I would now look back on and say “Yes it was perfect, my style hasn’t changed” My style has changed and my 20’s wedding would have been more trendy then, my wedding now is more rustic and timeless. Something I will definitely look back on and not change a thing.
4. I have been able to meet so many amazing people throughout my life. All of whom will have a big part in my wedding doing things like photography, officiating, catering, video etc. I would not have been able to save money on these big things in my 20’s but I’m so greatful we can now that I’m in my 30’s.
3. We are financially set. We have a house, our cars are paid off. We are still able to give our children what they need AND have a fabulous wedding.
2. We are paying for this. We get what we want and no one else has a say in it.
1. I had time to truly find my Prince Charming. The man I thought I would love forever in my 20’s is not someone I could see myself with today. The man I finally found in my late 20’s is the greatest man I could have ever asked for and definitely was worth the wait.
Post # 12
I love this!
1)The man I found in my late 20s is PERFECT. I know, everyone says their man is the best, but mine really is 🙂 I had time for ME, and had a few years before him of doing my own thing (owning a house, spending quality time with my girls, etc) to be secure enough to realize that he was the best thing to ever happen to me. I am so glad i had my 20s to figure out who I was, and that I had time to blossom on my own.
2)We’re old enough to throw the party WE want. Even though our folks are paying for some of it, we’ve decided that we don’t want a fancy wedding. We’re having a park wedding with craft beer and BBQ. I’m wearing a short dress and great shoes. This is a reflection of who WE are, not what the wedding magazines say we should be.(see #1) 🙂
3)As other girls have mentioned, the group with be family and close friends. These are the people we see all the time, and not people who we will lose touch with.
4)We can leave out some of the traditional wedding “stuff” that people dread such as a shower (i didn’t want one) and the garter/bouquet toss. It’s great we have laid back families that really don’t care about that kind of stuff–plus it’s one less thing that our family/friends will have to buy/travel/do just because you’re “supposed to”.
5)Did I mention we’re having a party!?!? We already feel married, so decided that parties are a lot more fun than weddings. Time to get the business over with and have a blast.
Post # 13
1. I already have the perfect guy, the guys I dated in my 20s were ok, but I waited and met my soulmated. So worth it.
2. I have a house! So I don’t feel guilty about spending the money on a wedding and not having money for a down payment/furnishings/appliances. Plus, we don’t have to move any gifts that we might receive off our registry for a while.
3. We don’t feel obligated to invite tons of people (classmates, high school friends, etc). By the time you’re in your 30s, you pretty much know who your friends for life will be. Those are the people we want to invite and celebrate with us.
4. It’s the perfect out for not wanting kids . We can always say we’re trying and people won’t question/push you too much if you’re older 😉
5. I look WAAAY better at 32 (almost 33) than I did at 18-20s
Me at 18 (in the middle)
Me at 32