(Closed) Top 5 things that will make your guests mad

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yup, not surprising.

Post # 4
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

You can’t please everyone. Some people will critique everything. And besides, what matters most is that the bride and groom are happy with how their wedding turned out.

Post # 5
2947 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

The destination weddings bit is spot on. -_-

Post # 6
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

None if the points were new news – but I like that the author offered “how to deal” advice that was excellent.

Post # 7
2263 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I liked it! So true. I realized the author touched on basically all elements of a wedding lol. Just reminded me that weddings can inflame people you never thought you’d be able to offend. 😛 

Post # 8
1415 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

They forgot one: not having enough food! I went to a brunch reception once, and my family still talks about how stingy they were with the food. They had a roast beef carving station, and the attendant was giving out paper-thin slices of meat. One of my aunts asked if she could have a little more meat, and the attendant snarkily commented, “Seems like some people are trying to make a MEAL out of it.” Uh, yes, yes we were, since we were all starving and had counted on eating at the reception (which went right over the noon hour). It was the strangest thing…

Post # 9
17 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

I really liked this post.

How would one deal with the Christmas season coming up?

Here’s what I mean….Big family Christmas party, by now most of the extended family (which for me is very large) now are aware that you are getting married. I know they are all going to expect an invitation but frankly, I don’t want them there. How do I go to this painful party and tell them I have no intention on inviting the whole lot of them?

Post # 10
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

@Orchid4: You just tell them that you have space and budget limits, and that you will not be able to invite the entire extended family. We had this same issue last year. We got engaged in October, but had not made a big announcement. But my dear Mother didn’t keep her mouth shut, so we were blindsided by invitation requests at the big family Christmas party. It was awkward, to say the least, but at least we were able to get it over with in one day. We told people the truth, which was that we chose to have a very small wedding because it was what we wanted, and that we will throw a big party later. Did my family like it? Not so much. Did I feel a bit guilty? You betcha. Am I glad we stuck to our guns anyway? Oh yeah!

Post # 11
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I like that the article gives advice on how to deal with each situation. I’m sure the majority of those will happen to me at some point. 

Post # 12
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This was great advice. When you guys were talking about the Destination Wedding bullet-point I went in on the defense because a lot of the HuffPo contributors are anti-DW and I have seen quite a few “How could you plan a wedding where everyone can’t come?!” Also, it’s true–we would rather have eloped, but it gave our families the chance.


ETA: I would rather have eloped–FI wanted a Princess wedding. It was the best of both worlds.

Post # 13
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have to admit I’m guilty of the registry one.  Not that I would ever say anything to someone, but I have a friend who registered for about $30k in waterford (and no, they aren’t rich with rich families).  Then when I started registering, I learned that sometimes you can get discounts on the stuff in your registry that isn’t bought.  Planning a wedding has made me regret a lot of my secretly snarky thoughts about aspects of other weddings – I hate knowing people will be having them about mine, so I’ll never judge again!

Post # 14
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

<3 Loved it.  It is all so true, you can offend people in so many more ways too, other than these five. 

We’ll see how my non-tradition (bake off included, yes I’m going for it), Christian wedding rubs people. 

Fun fact, years ago the dessert was in fact provided by aunts and cousins. 

The more research I do, the more I find, what is deemed “proper wedding etiquette”, has only been around for the past 100 years or so.

I love my guests, but to please all 175 of them, well it is simply impossible. 

Post # 15
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I liked this answer:

How to handle: If someone approaches you to complain about your registry, offer up your sweetest smile and say “Registries are just suggestions — we’d love anything you feel would be appropriate to give newlyweds.” 

I can’t say I’ve had anyone complain about the fact that we had a registry, but if someone did, I would hope I could remember to say that!

Post # 16
1587 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I had a “friend” who just up and decided she was in my briday party… we actually were best friends for theh longest time, then we had a falling out and now only recently started talking again

How rude hey… thank goodness she didnt approve of me being friends with any of her other friends and she deleted me off facebook and out of her life. now i dont have to worry about that selfish cow being there at all…

Sorry, Rant 

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