(Closed) Top Table

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
2777 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Well I fully expected to be sitting at a different table than my guy (who was a groomsmen) at his brothers wedding but they allowed dates to be able to sit with them up there.  

At another wedding they just had the bride and groom and everyone else sat at whatever table they wanted.  I was annoyed at the thought of having to be apart from him all night and pleasantly surprised when I did get to sit next to him.

It’ll prob just be me and my guy up there because the date and kid situation is complicated. So I think itll just be me and him and a special table for bridesmaids and groomsmen and their dates/families. Also his family is fractured so it would be difficult to make it a family table just me and him saves complication.

Do you have a maid of honor?  Why is she not siting up there?  I would suggest having a table for groomsmen, bridesmaid, best man etc and keeping the headtable you and family because other than the best man that’s what you have up there.


Post # 4
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would never split anyone from their date. I think it’s very bad manners to split up a couple. Either seat them both at the top table or seat them both at another table, but seat them together.

Post # 6
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Does your brother have to be at the bridal table? I’m not trying to be rude, just trying to understand if you need to work with him being there due to his disability? Can it just be you and your parents, and have the rest of your family and bridal party at another table?

Post # 8
19 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

You should do what you want. This is your wedding day and if people dont like what you decide then what kind of a friend/bridesmaid are they?

We have said NO CHILDREN other than sisters/bothers/nephews/nieces (i know this will not go down well with cousins but its our day) and we have mixed up the tables so the familys can get to know one another.

My partner has his brother as his best man and on our top table will sit…








BRIDESMAID (One of my three sisters).

The best mans girlfriend will sit with family of my husband so she has people she knows around her. SHE HAS NO ISSUES WITH THIS! My oldest sister who is on the top table has a boyfriend and three kids….all of those will sit on a different table to her.

Its for what 2 hours…..iv sat couples together other than the top table where they will have to sit with other people for a short period of time.

Its so easy to worry about who you will offend etc etc but at the end of the day these people should appreciate your choices. Its about you and your husband to be not about pleasing other people. Call me harsh but its extra stress to worry about others.


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