Post # 1
So, who here watched The Office episode titled “Ultimatum” last night? (If you haven’t seen it and don’t want be spoiled, don’t read ahead.)
When we left of before Christmas, Holly (Michael’s ex-gf who he still loves) told everyone that if her boyfriend AJ did not propose by the end of the year, she would break up with him. So in this episode, everyone is waiting for her to come back to see whether or not she has a ring on her finger. When it is revealed that she is not engaged, Michael is thrilled, only to find out that she didn’t follow through with the ultimatum and they didn’t break up after all. All through the episode she keeps saying, “We’ll be just fine, we’ll be just fine.” At the end of the episode, she ends up calling AJ and says that they need to take a break.
I watched this with my Boyfriend or Best Friend, but no commentary on the subject from him. I was itching to bring us up the whole time, but kept my mouth shut. (Although we did watch a stupid reality show about women prosing and marrying their guy on-the-spot, and I asked, “Oh, so is THAT what you’re waiting for?” That got an I-was-hoping-you-weren’t-gonna-say-that smirk out of him.)
Thoughts from ladies in waiting who watched this, possibly with your SO?
Post # 3
I didn’t watch it but I wish I did- good episode.
Post # 4
@pisces36: i think that if more women had the balls to dump men because of what they believe in and what they want, a lot more guys would respect us for it and step up to the plate
Post # 5
I just saw it tonight. Great episode. I’m rooting for Michael Scott!
I watched it with SO and we briefly talked about ultimatums. His stance is that they never work, and he agreed with Pam in the last episode where she said successful marriages don’t usually start off with ultimatums. He also believed it was wrong of AJ to not be able to meet Holly’s needs which led her to giving an ultimatum at all. Great man!
My thoughts? Well, that I shouldn’t give SO an ultimatum unless it was my last resort! And realize that I’d have to follow through. Hopefully it will never get to that tho!!
Post # 6
My SO and I decided on a timeline a while ago and it is fast approaching. I have been very good not talking about rings and our upcoming timeline because he has told me several times that he is researching and beginning the process of ring selection, and I was afraid this episode might open doors for conversation that we are done having. Since we already agreed on our timeline I thought it would be best to eliminate possible discussion of timelines…so I deleted the episode from the DVR after watching it without him. I figured if we agreed on when we are taking the next step then we don’t need to watch TV about people that don’t follow through with engagement timelines. I might be being superstitous, and call me crazy, but this episode made me nervous! Thankfully, he didn’t ask why The Office didn’t record this week!
Post # 7
I watched it and I was glad she dumped him! Guys are lazy about a lot of things, and I have set up timelines for various things that my Fiance has not met (like picking groomsmen, working on playlists, cleaning the freaking bathroom(!) lol)… but I never gave him a timeline or ultimatum to propose. I feel like for the IMPORTANT stuff– if a guy wants to do it he will. If I had had to put him on a deadline I would always worry that he was proposing to avoid me breaking up with him, not proposing because he wants to marry me. And marriage can be hard enough without wondering if your guy is really in it for the right reasons.
Post # 8
I watched it last week, but then was thinking about convincing my SO to watch it again. Maybe pretending i hadn’t seen it, in hopes that it’ll spur some conversations!