(Closed) Torn?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am sorry for all the family issues with your father. Those are never good situations.

I’d wait to worry about this until Boyfriend or Best Friend actually proposes. I know you are pretty sure it is coming this weekend, but don’t get too excited until it actually happens. You may worry yourself over something that ought not to be worried about right now.

This is kind of a tough one to give you advice on because it is such a deep seeded family issue that none of us will be able to help you “fix.” I can just say that when you do get engaged it will be you and you FI’s big day. As long as the both of you know you are ready then nothing else matters. Have you ever sat down and had a discussion with your ather about your Fiance and tried to work through some of those issues?

I would let your father know when you get engaged, but you do have a choice to include him or not, especially if you feel his violent tendencies start to show. It is not your mother’s job to stand up to him when he says something negative towards your Fiance. That beging said approach the situation gracefully and just let him know. If he’s mad, well, you kind of expected that. But all in all I’d say talk to him. Figure this out, and let him know how your Boyfriend or Best Friend has matured and how the both of you have overcome the hurdles that were thrown at you early in the relationship. If you were able to forgive your Boyfriend or Best Friend, you father should be able to as well.

Post # 6
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7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Talk to you dad. If he wants to plau concerned parent, then he should concern himself with how you are feeling about this.

And you feeling safe, secure, and loved by him your Fiance is what matters most <3 Take care hon.

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