Post # 1
I’m torn about RSVP’s – on one hand, i like the idea of a mailed back RSVP card, but to do that would exceed our budget for invitations.
I’ve only been to one wedding with web RSVPs, but it was much smaller (40 guests). We’re looking at about 120 guests.
We could have nicer invitations and still keep under budget if we went the web route, or we could have okay invititations with snail-mail RSVPS for a little more.
Ack – help me chooose!
Post # 3
i have the same dilemma! i really want to get rsvps back in the mail, and it just seems like some ppl aren’t clever enough to figure out how to do a web rsvp lol! so what i’m planning on doing is getting my shmancy invites and then doing a postcard rsvp from vistaprint…i think you can upload your same design there, so while the paper won’t be the same quality, the designs will match (plus they dont keep the cheaper quality postcard anyways)
Post # 4
How many guests do you have who don’t have computers? We used Web-only RSVPs, and only one guest had trouble with them. But if you have guests who don’t own computers, you might think about at least including a phone number for RSVPs as well.
Post # 5
Our RSVP says
Kindly respond by the (day) of (month)
on our website
by phone (xxx) 555 1111 or (xxx) 555 2222
or by e-mail [email protected]
Please let us know your meal choice
-beef -chicken – kids meal (4-12)
and if you have any food allergies.
It’s not perfect, but it works. And then the few who can’t figure out the website can call or email. As of now, all of my older guests (80+) have email!
And, hey, the royal invites didn’t have an RSVP card, did they? Wasn’t it just a “reply to this address” thing?
Post # 6
@ellabee: Curious – what wedding website did you use?
There are a couple of older people, but most of all our guests are on facebook, so i’m assuming their all somewhat internet savvy!
Post # 7
@Mrs. Meowerson:great idea!
if you sign up for the regular vistaprint emails (not the wedding ones), you can get the postcards for free.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
Most of the threads I’ve read on this suggest to have a phone # for older folks who won’t do the web. Personally, I’m doing both online and printed RSVP. If you DIY your RSVP card and make it a postcard so that the stamps are cheaper, it’s not that expensive ($0.28 per stamp, cost of paper/ink – you’ll get a polar bear stamp right now, unfortunately).
Ultimately, I’d say if budget is a big issue and the interior RSVP card isn’t going to look good/match okay if you DIY, just do web/phone.
Post # 8
We had people RSVP online. We sent out invites for 145 people, I don’t remember how many we needed. It worked out fine, and I felt good about my decision b/c it’s good for the environment and my pocket.
Post # 9
Online RSVP’s are not complicated!
If people can’t figure them out I would also assume they don’t know how to function as a human on a daily basis either! Do some research and get a straightforward website for online RSVP. Huge money saver and I wasn’t concerned about getting mail, the bills I get in the mail are exciting enough for me!
We used ewedding.com
and even my old fogie grandparents said it was awesome. We have 190 invited and over half back already.
Post # 10
I think we have a total of like 6 guests that might have a problem with online RSVP so we provided a telephone number to RSVP also. I think that’s completely sufficient unless you’re having a super formal wedding (white/black tie, evening full sit down dinner). Basically if you’re whole wedding is traditional go the traditional route, otherwise just go with what’s easiest and most convenient for the most people.
Post # 11
@kala_way: Hmm…we are having a rather formal wedding.
Did the other online RSVP’ers have more formal weddings as well?
Post # 12
@babybluz:the knot (gasp) Please don’t shun me!
And our wedding is black tie invited (formal “plus”).
Most of the guests would prefer to RSVP online or by email–it’s easier and more convenient for them. I was originally planning on doing a postcard RSVP.
Post # 13
I LOVED having our RSVP’s through our wedding website if that helps. It made it super easy, I didn’t have to chase people down for the names of their guests (because they had to put them in). Even helped with a few spelling errors I had.
Had to put my parents home phone number down too though because a few people weren’t web savvy enough to figure out the online rsvp part.
Post # 14
As a follow up – just tell people who don’t like it that you’re being environmentally friendly.
Post # 15
@ellabee: NO judging from me! I’m gonna check it out later LOL
@iRun2004: Which site did you use?