Member- melbgirl
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Hi,
I’m needing some serious help! I’m torn between two wedding dresses and don’t know which one to pick.
I went shopping with my mother and mother-in-law and felt time pressured and was slightly talked into the fact that a dress I tried on was the dress I should wear because they LOVED it.. So I put the deposit down. However, I didn’t have that feeling and although I really liked it, i didn’t love it. It is a very “me” dress, it suits my style and I think it is very timeless and elegant. But ever since purchasing it I have had doubts. I just didn’t feel stunning in it – i thought it showed up my tummy a bit and I’m really worried about the very low back and lack of boning. I have relatively larger breasts for my size (30E) and worried that the dress really won’t support them – I can’t even put cups in it because the dress wouldn’t support it. So would have to find a very low backed corset and be wearing a corset all day which might get uncomfortable.
Then, several months later (of wondering whether it was the right one) I was walking past a bridal shop and decided to just go in and have a look. I wasn’t expecting to try anything on and was just looking. But the owners were in there and had had a cancelleation, and when I told them my story about buying the dress I’m not 100% sure of, they insisted I try on some dresses. I had nothing else to do, so did. I picked up all dresses similar to that I had purchased and then added in one completely random, not my taste dress. To be honest, on the rack I really hated it. I tried on all the dresses and didn’t love any of them. But then, I tried on the one I really didn’t like, and when I looked it the mirror it looked spectacular. I looked curvy and slim, and it just did really good things for my body. It is completely what I said I didn’t want, but when I put it on, I loved it. I still didn’t have that aha this is my dress moment (not that type of person i don’t think) but I just loved it on, felt really stunning in it and feel very glamorous. Plus it is fully boned and supports my breasts, even without sewn in cups (but I would be able to add these if I wanted). The top sweetheart neckline is so much nicer than the neckline of the dress I put a deposit on.
So now, I am in a pickle. Do I go for the dress that I have already put a deposit on and is probably more me and more elegant but something about it has me unsure. Or, do I lose my deposit and go for the dress that is completely different to what I thought I would wear and not really my typical style, is probably less timeless but I feel absolutely stunning in? Either way, I would still be under my budget for the dress as they were more reasonable than I was expecting (still don’t like wasting money though!).
I have attached the pictures of the dress and would love for your opinion. The lace one is the one I have put a deposit on. They are going to add a keyhole back and straps (they showed me the general look with the bolero). The duponi silk one is the other one and I would have less poof at the bottom as they said they could remove some tulle if I wanted.
Any advice would be much appreciated. I don’t know what to do!
