- 5 months ago
We basically decided to elope, I’ve always wanted that and it seems less stressful and then we can celebrate with everyone later when we buy a house and are a bit more settled. We have been living together in an apartment in a big city on the east coast across NYC (in Jersey City) since 2015, and have really built a life here with our pets, and are planning to move to the suburbs once we buy a house. We also travel a lot and we have driven down the pacific coast highway in California a few times and love it there – we’ve stayed in a yurt in the Redwoods, been to Yosemite, etc. We also drive to upstate NY a lot for weekend getaways. This is all relevant info.
We also plan to go with an elopement package to make things a bit less stressful than planning every piece on our own.
Here are our two ideas and I’m split:
1. City and Catskills
We get married in our local city at city hall, where we currently live across from, take pictures by the waterfront with the NYC skyline as our backdrop, then get in our getaway car and drive upstate where we celebrate just the two of us by getting a cabin or B&B, and planning some nice dinners, sunset picnics or first dance, hiking, etc.
Pros: WAY less expensive option, has sentimental significance, easier to do things like makeup and hair trials (which I would still want to do), easier to plan the logistics
Cons: FH worried about “staying home” to get married making it feel less special, also the celebration part (after the elopement) we would plan ourselves, not going that far away
2. Big Sur California
We would do a first look in the Redwoods and get married on the coast. We would have the day planned with the elopement package we decide on.
Pros: We’d have the day all planned, we can make a trip out of it, still has some sentimental significance, it may feel more “wedding”ish by doing something more “impactful” like going somewhere rather than getting married “at home”
Cons: Way more expensive to book packages (though still less expensive than a wedding lol), more difficult to plan the logistics being on the other side of the country