Torn between two elopement ideas – poll!

posted 5 months ago in Elopement
  • poll: Which option should we do?

    City/Catskills

    Big Sur

  • Post # 2
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    Bumble Beekeeper

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    @victoriab127:  When are you planning to do this? Given pandemic complications I’d choose City/Catskills this year but might choose Big Sur next year when the likelihood of having to change plans may be less. 

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee

    I would go with your local option:

    1)  Getting married is what makes getting married special – not travelling to an exotic location.  Years ago, everyone got married locally and it didn’t stop their weddings being special.  It’s only recently that it’s become common to have destination weddings.  And it sounds like it makes a lot of practical sense, being cheaper & easier.

    2)  I think it’s nice to make your wedding memories somewhere you can revisit easily.  We got married in a local church, had our photos at a local beauty spot and honeymooned near enough that we can return to the same location every year if we want to.  I loved that we were making our wedding memories in places we would be seeing often in the future.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    Get married locally, and honeymoon somewhere at a later date =) I am all about saving funds, and doing something closer to home doesn’t make it any less special, regardless of where you get married it will always be special =)

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee

    What about a combination? If you’re planning for this year, do it locally, do a mini-moon in upstate NY and then go out to CA next year for a full honeymoon when hopefully COVID is better. Like PP, I love the idea of doing something locally (especially when it’s not a normal venue) so you can go back on anniversaries or just to reminisce.

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee

    Special is what you make it.  Going to an out of the way location isn’t what is going to make your wedding day special.  Your wedding will be special because it’s your wedding.  It’s all about adjusting your attitude about what “special” means in this context.

    I have family from a podunk town in the northern part of my state.  Like 75% of my cousin’s friends all got married at the VFW with their reception catered by the local grocery deli.  Another 20% got married in the nearest “big” town (i.e. more than one stop light) 45 minutes away.  All of them consider their weddings special.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee

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    @victoriab127:  We deliberately made both our engagement and our wedding places/events that we could revist–and we have done so annually minus Covid. It has been fun! 

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee

    You don’t have to travel to make your wedding day or celebration memorable.  A honeymoon (I know this isn’t strictly one, but still) is really nothing more than a trip taken as newlyweds where you can spend some quality time together while doing fun activities.  IMO, they have lost significance in this era where many (if not most) people already live together before getting married.  A trip taken later will be just as good.  I’ve been to both the Catskills and Big Sur (I live in the NYC area) and you can’t go wrong either way.  The Catskills are gorgeous, and I’ve taken several day trips there.  Just driving there is great.  Big Sur can wait, there’s no pressing reason to have to do it as part of your wedding.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

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    @victoriab127:  We eloped (had a micro wedding) locally and it was awesome, so much less stress and planning, and packing etc.

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