(Closed) Torn between whether to do it big or small – poll!

posted 5 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Did you regret the size of your wedding?
    I had a big wedding and wish it was smaller : (8 votes)
    18 %
    I had a small wedding and wish I had gone bigger : (1 votes)
    2 %
    I had a big wedding and no regrets : (14 votes)
    31 %
    I had a small wedding and no regrets : (22 votes)
    49 %
  • Post # 16
    326 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013


    AnnaVictoria:  Yes it was two different locations about a 5 min drive apart in my city’s downtown area. We used our photographers studio for the ceremony space (its a 100 year old loft building with original hardwood floors and a brick walls). We were going to use the brewery origincally but she begged me not to. She’s shot weddings there beore and its dark, ceremony is typically up on a stage and not overly flattering.

    Everyone knew it was a small wedding. Only one person we invited couldnt make it at all and my grandfather who is quite ill came to the ceremony but not the reception. Honestly, it was  the best choice  we made for us and it was perfect. If you have more questions or want to see photos at all just message me 🙂

    Post # 17
    722 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    my wedding isn’t until october but so far i’m really regretting not just having a super small, intimate affair. i’m already offending people for not inviting EVERYONE and it’s expensive and so much to worry about. i wish we would’ve had a small destination wedding. but it’s too late now, hopefully the day of i’ll enjoy having a bigger wedding

    Post # 18
    2445 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We had about 50 people and rented out a property for the weekend. Mostly everyone was able to stay with us on site, or fairly close by (walking distance), and that’s what made it the most special. We didn’t feel like our attention or time had to be divided among too many people and it was just one big party weekend. We only had our closest friends and family. I would do it over and over again this way.

    Post # 19
    275 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m so glad someone posted a topic like this. My Fiance and I are discussing the small wedding option, I know it’s what I ultimately want. We are having a hard time deciding who to invite. I really wanted it to be intimate, like 30 people total, but it’s so hard to cut people (esp for FI).

    I think at this rate, we’d be lucky to narrow the list down to 50 total. Does anyone think that b intiviting 50 people, lots of family/friends will be offended that they weren’t invited? I would say it’s an intimate ceremony, but idk if 50 seems very “intimate”. 

    Post # 20
    1392 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think big weddings can get carried away and sometimes turn into a spectacle.

    Plus they are soooo expensive. And you won’t know a lot of the people there.


    I’m completely biased since I’m doing a small wedding…Part of the reason is because I have social anxiety and don’t have a huge amount of friends. If you have an outgoing, bubbly personality and want everyone you know at your wedding, I think it’s fine.

    I went to a big wedding a couple years ago. Can’t imagine what it cost her parents…but the bride loved it – she was partying like crazy. A big wedding was clearly right for her.

    Post # 22
    6290 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Yak:  We had a small-average wedding: 61 Inc us for the day, and about 80 for the evening (should have been more but had a few last minute declines). For us it was perfect: we are close to everyone who came and know them all really well, and everyone mixed with everyone else and had a blast; we’ve had so many complimens on the atmosphere and how fun it was. 

    The smallest we’d have gone would have been 50 is as for the type of event we wanted (fun, party feel esp in the evening) it wouldn’t really have worked with much less. And we didn’t want to go above 90ish, as we feel it starts to get stressful trying to make sure you’ve spoken to everyone etc. As it was, it was perfect for us: fun and relaxed, and we had chance to speak to/hang out with/dance with everyone, which was nice. 

    Post # 23
    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    My wedding is going to end up having about 50 people. I am so glad that I chose to keep it small. It is difficult to plan as it is. Planning on a large scale is an even bigger headache. If I did not go this route, I would have eloped overseas… I have heard more complaints about huge weddings than small ones.The bigger the bill, the bigger the expectation. I am sorry, but there are so many unnecessary and expensive items that are purchased for weddings, like chocolate fountains and ice sculptures. I just don’t care about those things!!!

    Post # 24
    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Lizzy272:  Inevitably someone will offended no matter what you do. If you invite 100 people, someone will try to add on someone else, and will be offended if you tell them that there is not space for that person. Some people will be offended when their kids or Girlfriend of 2 days is not invited. You simply cannot please everyone, and weddings are no different. Your wedding is not a free-for-all where everyone and their auntie, cousins, and best friend get to partake of the festivities. Do a combination of what you want and what you can afford. Folks will have to get over it.

    Post # 25
    1410 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We had a wedding of 100 people, and we wish we had done something smaller, around 30. It was beautiful but we still could have had everything that was important to us and saved ourselves a lot of money and stress. But oh well 🙂

    I think it’s interesting that more people in this poll regret a big wedding than a small one.

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