Post # 1
I really really want a reception but my fiancee does not. He believes it would be a waste of money, but is encouraging me to make my own choice he’d be happy either way. Im torn between having one or just going to dinner with everyone. My main fear is how my family will act (Im in no way embarrassed by them fyi) because the way some of them act and how judgemental they are of people. The first time my Dad and step mom met his parents and sister the first thing to come out of my step moms mouth is “theyre weird nobody is ever that happy and bubbley.”!! She talked to them for maybe 2 minutes and shes judging them. His family are a loveable bunch and very conservative.Alot of my cousins cuss and smoke and that will not be allowed at the church or reception. And im not sure how everyone is going to react to the rules. Did you have a reception or no?
Post # 3
Don’t worry about what family will want/like/discuss, etc. You’ll go absolutely insane trying to please everyone.
If you are having a traditional church wedding, yes — you should do a reception. However, you can save tons of money by having a morning ceremony and doing a “brunch” reception (from about 12:00 Noon to 4:00 PM.) Often you can get a $50-$60 meal for about $30 to $40 per person. You don’t have to serve hard liquor since it is early – do a lovely “pink champagne” toast followed by beer and serve two or three different wines, one with each course (usually you get an appetizer, an entree and dessert, of which, they can serve a sweet, plum wine). Many halls give a free wedding cake, and be sure they offer all the table settings as well which should be included in the price. Don’t know where you are from, but if you do a search at effectective.com and put in your city and state, you often get a list of venues. You could also buy a bride’s magazine in your area and look at their venue list. If you marry out of season (like in February or March, it would be cheaper.) If you marry on a Thursday or Sunday morning, it will also be cheaper. So do ask your venue. You don’t need a fancy menu, just something nice for each course and you may be able to opt for 2 or 3 appetizers brought to the table as opposed to having a separate cocktail hour which could run an additional $15-$30 per person.
If you want some alcohol, ask the venue that you would like a signature drink, like a spiked champagne or rum punch or a martini signature drink to welcome your guests when they arrive to the reception. That would only be one drink per person and they would give you a deal on this.
For flowers, go to Home Depot and get potted flowers, one for each table. Use one dramatic flower for each bridesmaid and a small bouquet for you and your Maid/Matron of Honor. The moms can have a small white iris corsage.
With careful planning, you should be able to have a reasonably priced wedding. If people want to smoke, they can always go outside. Everyone knows they can’t smoke inside a venue.
Remember, it’s your wedding and you should enjoy your day and your love and celebrate this momentous occasion!