(Closed) Torn on the Registry- How to make guests aware????

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

If most of your guests are Latino, go for it. If not, go for word-of-mouth instead…the best option is usually to include a link on a little card to your wedding website (you can make one for free) and have a page with a link to your registry on that site.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would include it. I did in my sister’s invite (we’re not Latino) and nobody said a bad word about it…at least I didn’t hear any negative comments back. If it cuts down on the number of phone calls and questions about where to find the information, I am all for it.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am of the belief that if a guest wants to buy you a gift, they’ll inquire about a registry.  So make sure your immediate families know about the registries so guests can ask them.  But, there are worse faux pas than including registry info so if you really wanna do it, do it.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

It sounds like the etiquette on this varies in different cultures, but the etiquette guides are all coming out of American WASP culture. Do what’s culturally appropriate for you! If you want to be extra-sensitive, you could leave the registry cards out for guests who you think might be offended.

Incidentally, my family is as WASP-y as they get, and apparently my grandmother used to be offended by wedding invitations that included RSVP cards! It was against etiquette to put them in, because it implied that your guests were too lazy to reply “properly” on their own stationery. My point is that things are different in different cultures and different eras, and your knowledge of the etiquette of your own culture is a good resource – go with it!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ve only once ever had a wedding invite without registry info in it. And that was only because the bride and groom hadn’t registered yet. If it’s something that you’re used to in your culture then go for it – the jury is kind of out on this one as to which is the right or wrong way to do it. I say go ahead. Nobody is going to tell you that you shouldn’t have done it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If that is what your guests and culture expect then do it.  If you’re still worried then don’t.  I had one invitation come with it on the actual invitation!!!  They were not hispanic, just ill informed!  lol. I thougth it was uber tacky but I didn’t say anything!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

You know what, I’d make two: One card with registry info for the people who would appreciate it, and one card with website info for the people who would not like the registry info in the invite. Just separate the invites into two stacks (registry info vs. website info), put the corresponding card in the invite and send it out. It’ll be easy.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I just included a “For more information” card and put down our website. We have hotel information, plus directions, and a site where you can request music, so it’s cool.

I think it’s fine to include it in the invitation, my friend did it when she got married and I remember thinking how helpful it was. I think it may be something only brides and moms/grandmoms care about.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I put in a card that said, “For more information regarding flights, lodging, wedding details, maps, and registry, please visit our website at: http://www.ourwebaddress.com

I feel like a lot of people see ‘For more information’ and don’t think the info THEY need is there and ignore it. My hopes are that if I spell out where ALL the info can be found, calls will be minimized… And while it mentions registry, it’s last and it’s jumbled in with any other info people may or may not need. i.e. a lot don’t need flight info. 

Post # 15
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4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I put in a card that said, “For more information regarding flights, lodging, wedding details, maps, and registry, please visit our website at: http://www.ourwebaddress.com

I feel like a lot of people see ‘For more information’ and don’t think the info THEY need is there and ignore it. My hopes are that if I spell out where ALL the info can be found, calls will be minimized… And while it mentions registry, it’s last and it’s jumbled in with any other info people may or may not need. i.e. a lot don’t need flight info. 

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