- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I just got into a college program and so I dont’ plan to do it right away until the application process is over, since I started it in my maiden name and don’t want to screw anything up…..but I sitll have to do it at some point.
My husband doesn’t have any connection or feelings about his last name, he said quite frankly it doesn’t matter to him If I change it because it’s not something he’s proud of. He feels the only upside to it would be so it’s easier to distinguish us as a married couple on paper…and also makes it more clear to people that I”m off the market. =) I guess the reason he feels this way is he never knew his father….and has only heard negative things about his paternal side, though he never knew that side of the family.
He has expressed desire to change his last name to his mothers maiden name, which he has, deep down, always wanted to do. He’s proud of that name…but I feel like it’s for superficial reasons…beause it’s ethnic, and less..BLAH. I mean, I can understand it. I also have a very BLAH last name, and my mothers maiden name is very ethnic and fun to say…but I certainly don’t have negative feelings about my last name.
At first I supported him changing his last name, so long as he took care of it well before the wedding, well before we printed up invitations, did monogrammed stuff, etc. He seriously thought about it for a little while and then decided not to, citing it would be a hassle.
So, now I don’t know how I feel about changing it. I do wish hyphenating my name would work..I love the idea of keeping my name but taking my husbands, but when I first put them together, it didn’t sound right at all and would be pretty long.
But the more I think about it..the more I think I could get used to it and that if I can, then everyone else can. What do you think? This isn’t our last names, but they are representative of similar sounds and lengths of our last names with my first name….
Does it suck? Or should I be Katherine Grantland once and for all. =/