Post # 1
I’ve started a couple threads here in the past several days. Mainly because I’ve been having a rough and stressful week with my Fiance. We’ve been fighting a lot and he’s said some hurtful things.
I feel like I haven’t slept in days. I just lay there hour after hour while Fiance slumbers peacefully beside me. Obsessing about the latest wedding detail–in the past few days, in light of this week’s fight.
I feel like Fiance and I need a few days’ space, I feel the need to get away somewhere cozy and peaceful, literally, to “sleep it off.” I don’t really have anywhere to go.
Anyone else have a hard time sleeping, what do you do to help it?
Post # 3
I feel for ya. This week hasn’t been that great for us either…just constant bickering. Then add to it that I can never fall asleep at a decent hour and when I finally do get comfy I end up getting crowded….I really hate to be touched when I sleep. Ugh. Anyways…you should go to walmart or walgreens and get some melatonin. It usually helps me fall asleep and have a pretty sound sleep. Plus I like it because I don’t feel groggy the next day.
Post # 4
I’m sorry about you being so stressed…I definitely know the feeling, having problems with stress and anxiety myself. Luckily that’s mostly under control these days….however, I’ve been having trouble sleeping the past few nights myself. That’s why I’m awake and on weddingbee at 5:30 in the morning!
Most of the time if I’m having problems falling asleep I’ll read, or more likely listen to an audiobook on my iPod in bed. I can usually zone out with the soothing voices and fall asleep. My favorites are the Harry Potter audiobooks. =)
Could you go stay with a friend for a weekend? Or simply go relax and get a massage sometime this week? Maybe meditate for a while and clear your head? Or even just talk about your problems with your Fiance, maybe you two can work things out together? Good luck!
Post # 5
I’ll look for some melatonin, thanks for the suggestion.
“talking things out with FI” is exactly why i have this problem :/
Talking has turned to fighting. We need space right now.
Thanks for your support!!!
Post # 6
Forgot to tell ya…it’s in the vitamin section.
Post # 7
I was having trouble sleeping, so I instituted an electronic curfew for myself 🙂 (no laptops, tv, etc.), and just started to read for a while before bed. It has helped tremendously. Maybe try that? Get a couple of good books, or maybe a journal, so that you can write out your feelings and frustrations before bed– it really helps to help your brain calm down and allow you to get some rest.
Post # 8
I’ve heard of people having a me day and checking into a nice hotel for the night. Just a pamper me night in a big fluffy bed. You might also consider taking a day off of work. Getting a massage and then sleeping the rest of the day away while Fiance is at work and out of your hair.
When I can’t sleep I just pop some benadryl. It knocks me out 🙂
Post # 9
As someone who is a light sleeper during the winter (dunno why, but it happens every year!), I swear by OTC sleep aides during this time. They usually use the same ingrediant as the active one in benadryl.
I’ll admit it, I’ve also called into work sick because I needed a day to catch up. If you have the days, I would suggest using one to sleep and relax and clear your heard. There’s a reason why the phrase “mental health days” exists. I’m a firm believer in that.
I just know how it feels when you’re behind on sleep. It makes you an entirely other person sometimes, and once you sleep and revive yourself, you think so much more clearly and feel 100 times better.
If calling in sick isn’t an option, I would suggest that maybe you ask your Fiance to make himself scarce for a day while you stay home to nap and relax. To make it sound non-threatening, just say, “I know we’re bickering a lot, and I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I’m not sleeping. Can you spend the day out of the house, and not come back until ____ time so that I can nap and have some time to myself to relax?” I’m sure if he knows it’s for the best, he’ll be happy to do it.