(Closed) Tossing around ideas, need input

posted 9 years ago in Reception
  • poll: What would you do in this situation?
    Married couples together, S&K together, P&F together : (3 votes)
    18 %
    Married couples together, S&F together (since they know each other a little), P&K together : (1 votes)
    6 %
    Married couples together, S&K together, P & F with their respective SOs : (3 votes)
    18 %
    Married couples together, S, K, P and F all choose a partner of their choice : (2 votes)
    12 %
    Abandon the idea all together : (8 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1580 posts
    Bumble bee

    I voted abandon the idea. Are the single Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen not allowed to bring dates? They may have gotten into a relationship by then. I wouldn’t want to just sit there while my date or husband dances with the wedding party. Could you have your parents join you?

    Post # 4
    Member
    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I voted to abandon the idea. I know you have anxiety about having all eyes on you, but I felt as if our first dance was the only time we had to ourselves without someone interrupting us or making us pose for something. It was just me and my hubby out there having the first private conversation of the day. It was wonderful.

    Also, I’ve been in bridal parties where we’ve had to dance with our escort, and it’s awkward to say the least. Especially when you don’t know the other person. I think your married couples will be fine, but the others might feel a little awkward. If they all know each other and are friends and can actually carry on a conversation with each other, then that’s fine, but just be sensitive to them as well. I think you’ll find that you won’t have time to worry about everyone staring at you b/c you’ll be staring at your shiney new husband :o)

    Post # 6
    Member
    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I like the idea of having the wedding party join you halfway through your song.  Sometimes first dances can get really long, so this takes out the need for another entire song for the wedding party to dance to.

    Post # 7
    Member
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    The wedding party will be able to handle dancing together for 1/2 a song.  I think it’s a cute idea and will also help bring other people to the dance floor when the song ends (because the wedding party’s SO’s/dates will come out to the floor to dance with their partners!

    Post # 8
    Member
    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I vote abandon the idea UNLESS everyone brings an SO. Otherwise i could see it being awkward.

    And honey, everyone will be staring at you anyways! BUT, i don’t think people watch the B&G dance as much as we all think they do. I tend to watch for like 15 seconds, have my “aw sweet” moment, then go back to chatting wtih my table. I doubt they’ll watch you for the full 3 solid minutes. Don’t even worry about it!!!

    I went to a wedding in October where a bridesmaid was a lesbian and started dancing with one fo the other bridesmaids (i was told by the groom she was a lesbian but she also had a 1 month old baby with her) and i don’t think anybody cared beyond “oh they’re lesbians’ and moved on with other “gossip” if that’s even what you want to call it.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2344 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I like the idea too, but it sounds like a lot of work unfortunately… so I vote to abandon it, or revamp it, like maybe invite all married couples? Or your parents?

    Post # 11
    Member
    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Wow you think they’d make a scene? how sad. Well, this wedding had a BUNCH of older people (super old, some wearing, um, trucker hats and jeans? So i think it’s safe to say there were lots of conservative people there) and no fuss was made. Trust me, i understand the racism–my dad’s mom HATED my mom for years b/c she’s half korean. She openly expressed happiness that Darling Husband is very white. Polish/german in fact. Oye vez.

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