(Closed) Tossing the bouquet when nobody will be single

posted 10 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 32
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I was 32 when I married, & we had a pretty decent crowd of singles.  I *think* I may have skipped it if it were less than 5 people, but then again, I kinda wanted to have my moment since I suffered through the toss for the past oh 12 years or so.

Post # 33
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You should check out Mrs. Hamster’s post about this- I think she included all of the ladies at her wedding and attached a gift card to her bouquet.

Post # 34
35 posts
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am 30 and we are DEFINITELY skipping the bouquet toss and the whole garter thing.  In my experience, those things tend to happen at weddings where the bride and groom are younger (25 and under).  When you get into your upper twenties, no one wants to mess around with that nonsense anymore and be highlighted as the still-single girls in their late twenties and early 30’s.  I HATED going up there for my younger relatives’ weddings — what torture.  Awful.  I refuse to make anyone else do this.  In addition, having the groom remove the garter is just so weird and raunchy.  I saw it done at a baptist wedding last month and it just seemed so out of place at a conservative and alcohol-free event.  Kind of creepy, actually. 

Post # 35
527 posts
Busy bee

There will be a lot of kiddos at our wedding and I’m considering letting all the tossing and catching be a kids event.

Post # 36
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

What if you combined the two ideas? Do the boquet toss with all of the married women. Strap a gift card for a dinner for two to the boquet as a date night for the married couple.


Chances are many of your guests haven’t particicpated in a boquet toss for many years so that could be fun without singling people out as single. It also celebrates the marriages of everyone there while giving you cute pictures!

Post # 37
1011 posts
Bumble bee

I skipped the bouquet toss.  I’m in my 40s and most of my unmarried friends are even older than I am!

I considered doing this . . . giving it to the couple who has been married the longest.

Post # 38
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m not doing the traditonal bouquet toss either.  I’m 35 and not only do I have very few single friends, the bouquet toss was the one thing I have always dreaded at weddings.  Grrr!  So I planned on the anniversary dance, but unfortunately my fiance’s step-father passed away earlier this year and I think it would be too bitter sweet for everyone. So instead I’m going to attach a gift card to the bouquet and invite all the women up to compete.  Or maybe I’ll just ditch the whole thing.

Post # 39
940 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I didn’t toss the bouquet, and nobody seemed to miss it!

Post # 41
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Not a chance that I will throw a bouquet or garter for that matter.  Even at weddings where there were single people it was mortifying to watch, there is no way I would subject anybody to that.

Post # 43
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Not far from 30 but I am not tossing because everyone there will be married for the most part.

Post # 44
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

These are all such great ideas!  Im having a small wedding in HI and didnt even consider doing anything with my bouquet, but now I think I will give it to my 92 yr old grandma who is determined to make it to my wedding from Florida!  I hope she makes it!

Post # 45
317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Bah! I was never a fan of the toss anyway. Not garter. Not bouquet! As long as there’s booze and cake my girls will be happy.

Post # 46
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My sister and very few single girl friends did not seem thrilled about a single ladies bouquet toss. Instead I have made a bouquet of dollar bill roses and I will be inviting any of the ladies present to participate. I decided to play “girls just wanna have fun.” We are also doing a garter toss, but just the toss to “why can’t we be friends.” Who ever catches it wins and that will be the end. No single men putting garters on married ladies.


The bouquet is made with $40 dollars worth of ones. I think that will inspire people to participate.


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