(Closed) Tossing the bouquet when nobody will be single

posted 11 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think oyster’s suggestion is good–you can still toss the bouquet to married folks, just make it about winning something fun and not about finding a husband. 

Post # 48
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I am not doing the garter but i am thinking about tossing a bouquet untied so everybody can catch a fresh flower? not sure yet..just an idea to make the toss different.

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m 32, will be 33 on our wedding day.  No way in HELL will we be doing a boquet or garter toss!  We have no single friends, it would look ridiculous!

We’re going to do a “generation” dance instead.

Post # 50
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 2010

OK so i was watching four brides on WE the other night and instead of doing a bouquet toss they had all the older couples married to dance on the dance floor and they gave the bouquet to the couple that was married the longest.  Just and idea!

Post # 51
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

my sister got married when she was about 24/25… she didn’t do a bouquet toss. it wasn’t that she didnt have single friends/family. she and my brother-in-law decided to do something more personal and memorable.  At the time, both our maternal and fraternal grandparents were all still living, and still happily married.  My BIL’s maternal and fraternal grandparents were also all still living and still happily married.  So my sister had the florist tie up four bundles of her bouquet.(these were then wrapped with a ribbon for the ceremony so it looked like one bouquet.)  instead of doing a bouquet toss, she gave each set of grandparents part of her bouquet, and then she and my Brother-In-Law talked about how special it was to them that their grandparents were all still together after many years, and how they felt blessed to be in such a rare situation (since these days its so uncommon to be married that long)… 

long story short, try finding something personal and make it your own. that way it’s special for you and not about you just throwing your flowers at your one single gal pal!!!!

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I will be close to 26, FH will be 29 and our guests will be primarily 26-33 with a few older guests and we are the second to last couple to be married. We will NOT be doing either but even if we had less married friends I would STILL not do it because it has no value to us. I do not see the point, I’ve never enjoyed either tradition and it just doesn’t suit who we are. I think it’s GREAT if it reflects who a couple is or when it’s done with great enthusiasm. I think the flower girl idea and giving it to longest married couple is cute too.

I think it can be done in spite of everyone being married as well, but then again I believe in picking and choosing what works for you and there is no wrong or right when it comes to YOUR wedding! 🙂 Have fun and good luck

Post # 54
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Busy bee

One of my best friends had a tiny wedding and I was literally the only single person there above the age of 12.  She presented me with a little bouquet just for fun which was nice.  If you do have a single girlfriend coming, give her the little toss bouquet to enjoy as a wish for her future happiness!  (You could just plan on taking it to her table quietly to wish her well or make it a more formal presentation during the toasts!  (If it’s a big wedding, I’m sure that she would appreciate the quiet personal wish.) 

Post # 55
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Helper bee

lol. I havent put much thought into it yet. One of my friends said ‘you might as well just hand me the bouquet because I am the only single person on the face of the earth.’  I think I will still do it because it is fun and tradition. I will make the married girls get involved too just for volume. 🙂

Post # 56
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Haha, I forgot to toss my bouquet on the night! I must admit, afterwards I was a little gutted, but considering there were only very few truly single women there (by that I mean not coupled up in some way) and the rest are very far from getting married, I wondered if maybe it had been for the best after all…still a little sad as this was always meant to be a part of my wedding. Oh well, will have to have the jokey wedding in Vegas after all…Smile

Post # 57
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m not in my 30s, but honestly I had the same thought process with my bouquet toss. We both only had a small amount of friends that are single and pretty much zero members of our family are not married. I went ahead and did the toss, but there was a tiny crowd for the bouquet and the garter 🙂

Post # 58
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@afbacher: I’m doing this. It will end up being my great aunt, which is extra great, since it’ll be her birthday. The only singles would be kids or a couple of 20-somethings in long term relationships with guys who really don’t need more pressure!

Post # 59
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think this is a worn out tradition…I find it to be a waste of time and really boring! I would skip it and just have fun at your reception…you deserve it! I really like the idea of giving your bouquet to an older family member!

Post # 60
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I chose not to do the garter/bouquet toss.  It was an extra expense that I didn’t want (toss bouquet).  We DID consider doing a wish bouquet instead.

Post # 61
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I went to a wedding where everybody was married (except me) and she tossed the bouquet and whoever caught it got a special dance with their husband… The same with the garter toss, he got a special dance with his wife.

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